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When did YOU get back to YOU?

Discussion in 'Parents of Children with Type 1' started by momofone, Jul 29, 2012.

  1. momofone

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    We're just over a year in, 6 months pumping. I used to be an avid runner but stopped because I was so absorbed the first few months and so tired and didn't want to run while he was at school in case I got some frantic phone call and needed to be at the school right away. As a result, I've put on at solid 10 lb and am pretty sure I'm depressed; I'm desperately lacking motivation. I need to get back to ME but I don't know how to?
     
  2. StillMamamia

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    Don't wait. Start putting in time every day for your running. Go around the block. You may feel guilty (it's normal!), but it's totally ok to make some time for yourself, otherwise you'll drive yourself (and others) crazy.

    As Nike put it "JUST DO IT".

    As for the question on your thread, only last year did I start taking time for myself. I enrolled in Zumba. I won't tell you how many pounds I put in, but, let's just say Greenpeace almost made a shirt for me "Save Paula".:eek::eek::eek::eek::p Now, I do Zumba. I look goofy doing it, but I truly enjoy it, and I don't think about anything else while doing it.

    So......I'm here cheering you on!:):):):):)
     
  3. Tigerlilly's mom

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    This is proberly not the best advice, but take your phone with you....if that what it takes to get you out the door, then take it with you...then if something does come up, you can be contacted by phone...the thing about diabetes is that you can "talk" people through what actions need to be taken for a high, a low, battery change etc...if a site needs to be changed and you are the only one that can do it...then turn around and run back home, get in the car and go and do it!

    Once you have gone a few times and haven't received a call, then you may be comfortable leaving the phone at home and then checking for messages when you get back from your run.

    Babysteps!
     
  4. MomTo4Girls

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    I could have written this post myself. I ran a half marathon last October... and then when my daughter was diagnosed in February I basically stopped running. I am on anti-depressants which have not helped with the weight gain.... I need to run again but the fatigue is not helping either. My advice (and I should listen to my own advice too...) is to sign up for a running group or a class or make a commitment to someone else. You are much more likely to get out there when someone else is counting on you. Take your phone, stay close to home if you have to. Running around the block is a step in the right direction.

    I know you and I can both do this!
     
  5. momofone

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    It seems to be a vicious cycle, doesn't it? I'm so tired/depressed most of the time so don't feel like running but it's because I'm not running that I'm depressed and tired. I would love to join a running group but we live in a very small town with nothing like that here. I would have to drive half an hour to even get to a running store that has one. We don't even have a gym and no rec centre either.
     
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    It took me a little over a year, but honestly and truly, what pushed me over the edge and actually got me back to me was...RUNNING! So my advice is to take the time to find what you love again.

    I gained over 10# that first year on top of a 10 I already had, I finally have it all gone again but that didn't happen until the 2 year mark. Don't wait that long, trust me on this! Having control of my exercise and finding the joy in running again was by and far the most important thing to feeling in control of my life again. It's one of those circular things...not running was causing more depression and more depression made me not want to run. The solution was to force myself to run, and things slowly started to feel good again, mentally and physically.

    GO!! Right now, lol.

    I have a goal of doing a half marathon before my next birthday, so having a little personal motivation has helped me as well.
     
  7. MomTo4Girls

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    Yes. It is a vicious cycle. I am on antidepressants which I need to increase but don't want to because they cause me to gain even more weight :(

    Tomorrow I am going to run for 2km... I can do two km... will you try too???
     
  8. Becky Stevens mom

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    What a great post:cwds: I am a little over 8 years into this journey and have given up on finding the old me;) I know that sounds bad but Ive come to accept the fact that that person no longer exists but Ive also come to like and appreciate the person who has taken her place. I do go and do things now and let myself relax and have fun. That was hard at first because I felt that I had to be "on" 24/7 and that is just too much for anyone. I burnt out, sat home and cried alot, saw a therapist, found CWD:) and remembered that my needs were important too.

    If you want to start running or walking again. Make an appt to do that each day, put it on the days schedule that from this time to this time you will be out and doing our run. Tell others what they need to do about d and have your cell phone with you but make sure people only use if for important stuff, not the "How many carbs in _______?" If you schedule this time for yourself, you will start looking forward to it and become comfortable with it. And remember that you are well worth it:cwds:
     
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    After we had an understanding of diabetes. That diabetes will be unpredictable and has good and bad days. Life goes on, and our children adapt to the new normal.

    I would say time frame was about 6 months after diagnoses. Then a few set backs here and there. Starting the pump was a struggle because of all the new information and classes.
     
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    I think this is hugely correct, and it doesn't have to be a bad thing!

    Everything that happens in my life, even the small stuff, affects who I can choose to be. Diabetes aside, I'd hate to think of who I would be if I still made decisions based only on the experiences I'd had at 20. Diagnosis was a huge deal, and to me the challenge was not to try to get back to where my life was, but to try to use the new information in a way that made me a better person and made my life better. I am very different than I was, and that is a good thing.

    There were a number of things I wanted to do with my life, had spent hours talking to friends and hubby about, but when diabetes came in (and a few other "life events") it cued us in that life is short, changes happen, playing it safe all the time doesn't keep you safe all the time. We were so scared by the diabetes that we had to face that, and all the other things that scared us tagged along, and so we began to have to consciously decide not to live our lives in fear anymore. That sort of thing. Of course, people who weren't as screwed up as I was may have less to improve upon. :eek: But you get what I mean.

    As a made up example, if you were motivated before to run to lose weight (I know, it wasn't that, because no one ever runs that well and that much for that! But just a silly example!), and now you are motivated to run so you can be strong, because you see how important strong is to your daughter, that can be taking who you were and kicking it up!



    Of course, this is a two steps forward, one step back process, and I can go all rah-rah here and still spend the entire morning surfing the net and eating Little Debbies. But it's what gets me motivated. :)

    Best to you finding what works for you.
     
  12. Illinifan

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    It took a year or so after dx for us to go out alone as a couple.

    We gave up doing the midnight, 3am and 5am blood sugar checks about 9 months ago and we feel like human beings again, but not the people we were before dx.

    Zach leaves in two weeks for college and we'll be empty nesters. I'll let you know if I find a version of the old me then. I would like to find a "previous version" (not gonna use the word "old" here) of CINCHOME cuz she was pretty dang sexy and a lot of fun. You'll have to PM me to find out if I find her. :rolleyes::cool:
     
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    the old you is you no more

    Hello, I totally understand what you're saying. I'm 12 years in and my advice is not like the others. I, too, was avid in staying physically fit. It was also my therapy. However, you've never been taxed in the way you are now, so actually my advice is not to run...at least not in the way you did before. It is going to be too depleting now, and wear you down more. Stop. Rest. Walk if you can't run. Honor yourself, be compassionate upon yourself. You will find what works and what does not.

    I'm sorry, but I understand,
    Linda Buzogany
     
  14. 2type1s

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    I'm 14 years in, and I can say with the first diagnosis, it took about 6 months, but I was nine months pregnant with my 3rd child, and I just couldn't focus solely on diabetes. I had a new born whose needs were just as immediate and demanding as a 4 year old newly diagnosed. when that newborn was 8, and she became my second child with diabetes, I had been running avidly for about 4 years, doing marathons, triathlons, etc. My first run after her diagnosis was a 15 miler, 5 days after diagnosis, alone. I remember breaking down and crying about 8 miles in, really hard at the top of a hill. I had no sleep, I was depressed and I was MAD. But I had signed up for a marathon, and was going to do it. I think having that goal kept me training for that race, and then kept that pattern....finish one, sign up for another. If I were you, I'd find s 5k, or 10k and put your child's name on your shirt and run for them. Works every time for me! Now I run with a phone in my camelback, or my running belt, it gives me peace even though it's irritating. I do have a group of running friends, and they help me get through the long runs....it is my therapy. also...no matter how tired I am, I have NEVER said "wow, I really regret that run, or I feel worse" after I run. I always feel better, and am glad I exercised no matter how tired or bad I felt before!
     
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    it took me about two months to settle into to the new "normal" and now diabetes is just another part of our day.

    What really helps me to feel comfortable leaving my son alone, is knowing that the people around him understand what to watch for and exactly how to take care of him, should issues arise-however I always carry a cell phone just in case.
     
  16. MamaLibby

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    I agree with the people who said they've given up on finding the old them. We're 8 years in. I was 7 months pregnant when she was diagnosed, and quickly had a newborn and a newly diagnosed two and a half year old. I was also working nights while my husband finished school, so I had no sleep at all. I was depressed, angry, broke, exhausted. 8 years, 4 more kids and about a million more hurdles later, diabetes isn't the biggest of my worries. But have I changed since then? Absolutely. These experiences aren't something I ever wanted my family to go through, but it's strengthened us and changed our hearts.

    But, what I think you're getting at...it was about a year when I was comfortable leaving them with a close friend of mine who knew all about D. About a year and a half when diabetes didn't consume my every thought and emotion. Take the great advice given and do something for yourself! Go run! I wish I would've! :)
     
  17. Sarah Maddie's Mom

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    Have to throw my hat in with those who say you never go back to who you were.

    Having a child dx'd with a chronic, complex, life-long medical condition changes you. It changes the whole family. But that doesn't mean that you can't be all kinds of wonderful and happy :cwds: you just have to want it more because you've lost some bandwidth to the D stuff.

    Hope you find a way to start doing what makes you happy again.
     
  18. Knittingfor4

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    It's never the same. That's not a bad thing, but I think it's a true statement. I mean, you never look at a piece of fruit the same. It's like when you hear other moms talking about the weirdest thing in their purse now that their a mom - and yours is glucose tabs :) I had that happen to me just the other day.

    I think my daughter has inspired me. Not to be healthy for myself, but to be healthy so I can model it to her and hopefully it'll stick. I know, not the best logic, but it's gotten me to lose 120lbs! She eats things I never would have eaten before, but now that I do, she does too. She's a salad nut! So I say, if you can't run for you, run for your child. If they see you do it, they are more likely to adopt it as a lifestyle. Hopefully :rolleyes:
     

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