As you can see from my siggy, my DH and DD both have diabetes so I have an idea of where you?re coming from. Like you, I?m the primarily responsible for my DD?s diabetes care. You said that you are concerned with your DH?s lying about is diabetes management. Is it specific to the situation where your husband was 44 and said he was fine, or are there other situations? If there are other situations, were they all instances where he was low and not taking care of the low, or saying he was fine when he wasn?t? The reason I ask is because sometimes when my DH is really low, he only gives one-word responses to my questions. Sometimes it takes awhile for me to catch on, but then I realize that while he is responding to my questions with an answer that works, he isn?t really comprehending what I?m asking, so in those cases he isn?t really lying or being deceptive. Also, while the working on the A/C at 1:00 a.m. sounds weird, I could totally see my DH doing that same thing when really low. It?s almost like when he?s going low, he?s compelled to focus on something that causes him frustration and confusion, and because of the low, he gets more agitated. Has your DH taken care of the kids or gone on trips with them before your son was diagnosed, did he have any problems he couldn?t handle then? If not, I would think the camping trip might be a good thing for him and your son. Would there be cell phone reception where they would be? Maybe you can slowly get him more involved in your son?s D care, by asking his opinion on things like corrections, carb estimates for meals (I?m always amazed at how close my DH can be by just eyeballing a plate!), and just bouncing ideas from the doctor?s visits off of him. It shouldn?t take him long to get up to speed since he understands it ? he would just need to know the specifics for your son. I know what you mean when you say he doesn?t care for himself as well as he should. My husband is the same way. I don?t know that he ever re-tests 15 ? 20 minutes after a low ? unless maybe he was really low, and is getting ready to go to bed. He also doesn?t always test before meals, and I know my daughter notices. She understands the importance of doing things the way do them for her, though. I try to remind myself that he has lived this 24/7 for the last 32 years. Unless there is something he?s going to do that could be dangerous, I try to let it go. This forum can be such a valuable resource. Although most of the people here aren?t in the same position, they still have great information to share. Even though I?ve heard from my husband what it?s like to live with D, the perspectives of other PWD really validates what he says and gives me a better glimpse into the challenges that he, and now my daughter, live with. Most may not know exactly what you?re going through, but have a better understanding, and unique point of view that you can?t get from family and friends. Having a spouse and a child with D offers unique struggles, but also gives them a great opportunity to support each other. Wishing you the best of luck!