Well, my son was also diagnosed at 3. At first he cried for all shots and finger pokes. He eventually got used to the finger pokes, but cried for every shot until we started the pump, five months after diagnosis. I do think that most kids adjust to the shots more quickly than that, but it was one of the big reasons why we pushed for the pump so quickly. Numbing crème + one needle a day beat multiple shots a day, hands down. There are a couple of things you can try in the meantime. One is the Inject-Ease. You can buy one at most online pharmacies - try Edgepark first. It's a device that automatically inserts the needle for you. You still have to push the plunger down, but it hides the needle, and I think is "smoother" than doing it by hand. One other thing you can try is to "wake up" the nerve endings where you're going to give the shot by scratching that area with your fingernails right before you do it. Some folks have also had success using a spoon that has been in the freezer to numb the injection site before you give the shot. But with a 3 year old, he's probably reacting more to the idea of the shot than the actual pain, so the answer just may be time. While we were on shots, we quickly figured out that the best way to do it was to get it ready out of his eyesight, and then go find him, grab an arm or a leg, give the shot, and then give hugs and kisses. We tried letting him decide where he wanted it, and tried calming him down beforehand, and all it did was just extend the trauma. Most people find that it's best to be very matter of fact and quick, and then do the comforting when it is over. Yes, every 3 months is normal. We're now on an every 4 months schedule, but we've been at this a while. You should expect every 3 month appointments for the foreseeable future.