Well of course it matters to me how the child reacts to blood draws. My child stresses about them big time, and they are very traumatic for him. I'm not saying that I'd refuse just out of principle. If it could be done with a finger poke, sure. No problem. And if there was a real risk to the volunteer, I'd probably do it. But there was no real risk here, and I likely would not subject my child to a blood draw because the volunteer was being irrational. For me the fears of my child trump the fears of the adult who caused the situation. And I certainly would not make him look her in the eye and tell her no. I'd ask if he wanted to do it and if he said no, I'd tell her that I had decided against it. I was responding to timsma. You really don't need to respond to every post in this thread. I mean, if you want to, more power to you, but if you look around the board you'll see that no one else does it.