Yesterday Carson ran his 3rd half marathon. I'm so proud of him. He beat his time from last year by a full 15 minutes. He has a good friend who he trained with 4 days a week since May or June. They've run every single run together the entire time. The plan was for them to stick together for the race yesterday. There were 10,000 people in the race, the friend was the only one with a phone (because Carson had his pump, dexcom, and carbs on him), and both sets of parents were very strict about staying together and stressed the importance of sticking together rather than trying to get a certain time. You can probably see where this is going..... Everything was fine until mile 8. At mile 8 Carson felt like he was going low so he said he needed to stop and check his Dex. He wasn't super low but needed carbs. His friend didn't want to stop. So he didn't. He ditched him and left him alone and going low. Carson ended up being fine (I was running too, but not as fast) but he was very very hurt by his friend. We talked about it a lot last night and Carson decided he needed to talk to his friend about it. So today at school, he told his friend he was hurt, he felt like he just ditched him. His friend made a couple of excuses then flat out told him that IF YOU DIDN'T HAVE DIABETES THERE WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN A PROBLEM. Carson was speechless and so am I. Would love some advice from those who are older and wiser of how to handle this with Carson. If he was a little kid (he's 14 and in 8th grade), I would have gone straight to the parents and said do you know what your kid said to my kid??? (I still might do that because I'm friends with the parents and they would probably be horrified by what their son said). But that doesn't change what the kid said and the fact that Carson is having to deal with the fact that 1)Diabetes DID slow him down. As much as we teach our kids they can do anything with diabetes, sometimes it DOES interfere, like yesterday. And 2) His friend basically said screw you and your diabetes, I'm outta here. Stone cold. It would be easy to say, get a new friend. And he might. But how do you help an 8th grade boy work through those very complicated feelings? It didn't help that his goal was to get under 2 hours in the race and he got a 2:02 (and friend got a 1:47). He would have made his goal had he not been so crushed by his friend leaving.