I think I can see all your posts now. I'm not sure what to say. Obviously, your family, your rules, but the degree to which you are surrendering D management task to your child is highly unusual. We are all tired. We are all worn down by the hyper-vigilance that D requires. Sadly, it's just the nature of the beast. If you think that your admittedly anxious child is better able than you to carry this burden, then that's your choice as a parent. Wishing you good luck.