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I was told that it is my fault my son has diabetes.

Discussion in 'Parents of Children with Type 1' started by bandmkolb, Sep 25, 2011.

  1. MamaBear

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    Ok I am taking that as you think I interpreted your previous posts to mean that you thought dealing with diabetes laughable, and you are appalled that I would think that of you? If so, then it is you who missed my point. I didn't assume that at all. I was telling you that I disagreed with your post because as I read it, I was a bit dismissive of the OPs feelings, and pretty insensitive.

    See now that is a bit closer to the truth I think. I doubt any one of us who were dealing with a new, raw diagnoses would not get upset at such a statement.
     
  2. Pavlos

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    Religious fundamentalism is to spirituality what pornography is to love.
     
  3. swellman

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    I am ambivalent ... you just might turn me back.
     
  4. Pavlos

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    I respect peoples' religious beliefs, but I reserve the right to disrespect anyone who disrespects anyone else on the basis of their personal dogma :)
     
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    I am so sorry you had such rude, ignorant things said to you. If she were correct, every righteous person would have no trials, and every wicked person would have troubles according to their wickedness, and we all know that just isn't the case. So her argument holds no water.

    I was actually talking about this a little bit to my DS last night. I accidentally said something to him that made him feel bad about his D :)eek::eek::eek:) so we were chatting. I told him that I guess God could cure his diabetes, but perhaps that's not in the plan. Maybe God allowed him to have D to teach him some of life's lessons, like responsibility, or how to find the blessings in a hardship. Everyone has their own challenges, regardless of how religious they are. True religion is shown by how you handle challenges, not by how many challenges you have.

    I hope you are able to forgive her for what she said. Try not to give it another second's thought. It is completely untrue that you caused your child's D, and it doesn't deserve another ounce of emotional energy.

    Good luck! :):):)
     
  7. JenniferM

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    I wish I say that you are the only person who has experienced such ignorance. Alas you are not the only one... I had someone state that very thing to me. In addition, I was informed that my hubby and I needed to believe more... whatever that means... I do my very best to avoid these people at all time. Especially now that I have two kids who are diabetic.

    I would agree with all previous posters if this person continues to spout these things, I would refer her. In no way should you have to put up with that kind of bigotry.

    I would conclude, that there is nothing that you could have done. Our only mission is to keep our children healthy and hope for a cure.

    I will now step down from my podium ;-).

    Jennifer
     
  8. badshoe

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    One of the things that diabetes had brought into my life is a deeper understanding of real empathy. I consider it a spiritual gift. In part I have learned it from others online here and in other parts of the diabetes online community. Thanks everyone who has had a part in that.

    It really hit home when I hear my pastor say about feeling adrift and alone, ?We get a deep deep level of compassion because we can look at somebody who is suffering and honor their suffering without giving them some trite formula. We can honor how hard it is that day... that gives us the ability to serve, to be human to one anther.?

    That is how I try to post here and when I blog. I try to honor the suffering that can come with diabetes.

    Many of the folks who post on the weekly diabetes #dsma chat on twitter talk about the emotional side of living with diabetes being as significant as the clinical actions we take. The triggers for those emotions vary, just like everything else with diabetes. I hope I can honor the suffering expressed in the original post by avoiding trite formulas. If religion is about life and doing good then when it is use as weapon it fails. That however does not mean it doesn't hurt.

    To me what matters is honoring the feelings of pain as legitimate. I try to avoiding suggesting those feelings are not legitimate. YDMV
     
  9. fdlafon

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    Well, there is one thing we all know . . . You can't cure stupid!
     
  10. acjsmom

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    Just now seeing this. Well, I'll just say that my pastor husband might have a few words for her if she said that to him.
     
  11. momma_fish2007

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    The way I see it, disease is a part of this world because it is an imperfect world and as much as I would love to have Julian NOT have d, he does and I have grown so much as a result of this and have gotten so much closer to God because it. God did not give my babydiabetes but if it plays a part on our closer relationship with Him then its not a complete loss.
     

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