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How to convince my parents?

Discussion in 'Teens' started by Timmy Mac, Nov 16, 2010.

  1. Timmy Mac

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    To get me to a regular doctor?

    Its been over 3 years since my doctor's appointment that had anything to do with diabetes, and no matter what I say, they always just tell me that I'm controlling my D "good enough" and I don't need one. I try to tell them about having to spike my bloodsugar up to 250 every night in order to wake up in a normal range, and if I lower my lantus, even by just 3 units, my humalog needs double. And they just tell me "ALL diabetics have to do that, stop reading lies online."

    I'm at my rope's end. How can I convince them? I'm about to just give up and not even bother to ask anymore until I'm living on my own.
     
  2. LenasDad

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    How are you getting Lantus and Humalog without a doctor?
     
  3. TheFormerLantusFiend

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    How old are you?

    When I was 16, I asked my parents for their medical insurance card, which took some cajoling, and took myself to a doctor (I paid the copay).
    Assuming you are a teenager, I suggest you tell your parents that this is something you really want to do, even if it's not necessary, and that you're willing to pay, and then you go and make the appointment yourself.
     
  4. Timmy Mac

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    We just go to any doctor and prove I'm diabetic and I get the prescriptions. Hardly any questions asked.

    And I'm 18, but I don't have a job... or a car, so I can't even get myself to a doctor, much less pay for the co-pay.
     
  5. LenasDad

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    I'm not sure how you can convince your parents to take you to a specialist... :(

    Not to downplay the importance of an endo's advice, but you seem to have access to the basic tools: insulin and testing supplies. If you need to go to bed at 250 in order to wake up in a normal range, then I would agree that the Lantus dosage needs to be lowered. And it makes sense that the Humalog needs will then go up as a result. It's okay, you need what you need. You will need to rely on your bs readings to guide you in making these changes. If it takes double the Humalog, then that's what it takes.
     
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    If for some reason you needed to go to emergency and be seen related to a diabetes issue the doctor(s) you see is likely going to question who follows you for diabetes.

    When you explain the situation they are likely going to make arrangements for you to be seen by a diabetes specialist and make the recommendation for long term follow up
     
  7. Rayuzaki

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    you shouldnt stop trying to convince them, "controlling diabetes enough" isnt enough, if you hav it under control for the most part, then thats good and it may not be entirely necessary to hav a doctor, but it's always good to have someone to fall back on if you and your parents are totally stumped on something or you need professional help. if it wrnt for my doctor, i would be at a total loss, and me n my mom would still think that wen i went into ketoacidoses and almost a coma, id actually had the flu. keep trying to convince them.
     
  8. LadyBug

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    try reminding them that 'good enough' could take years off your life. no, 250 isn't going to send you into a coma, but over the years it will take it's toll on your body.
     
  9. Lucky 868

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    At age 18, do you go to college? Most colleges have a health center you have access to as a student and there might not be a charge.

    Good for you for wanting to be as on top of your diabetes as you can. It's a shame your parents haven't taken you to an endo or anyone. Do you go to the dentist regulary or any other doctor on a routine basis? If so, maybe that doctor could mention to your parents that you need to see an endo.

    Good luck.

    Cyndy
    Mom to N, 17
     
  10. Timmy Mac

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    Thanks for all the replies... sorry, I just completely forgot about this post.

    @Lucky nope, I'm still in high school. and also no, the only doctor I usually see is for a sports physical every year, and that is a different doctor every time. I'm due back for an eye exam in january (got glasses last year) but we'll see if that actually happens..

    Right now, I'm just hoping my wisdom teeth don't cause me any problems and come in right... if they don't I'm gonna be in major trouble...

    but I'm gonna forget about all this today! merry Christmas everyone!!!
     
  11. emm142

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    Honestly, I don't get any useful information from my endo.

    However, if I wanted to see an endo and my parents weren't up for it, I would work for the money and take a bus there.
     
  12. LadyBug

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    could you talk to someone at school then? merry christmas:)
     
  13. kiwiliz

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    Merry Christmas Timmy Mac. Try changing your lantus by only one unit at a time (while you are waiting for an appt.) Wait a couple of days after the change and then change by one unit again if you need to..... You should have more luck if you only make small changes - but you should be going to be 3-4 hours after your last meal and waking up around the same level as you went to bed. Keep it simple and you will even things out slowly. Are you playing lots of sport that makes your basal needs change?
     
  14. Heather(CA)

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    I agree with this, and if your parents wont listen. The next time you go to a regular Doc for prescriptions, tell THEM you want to go to an Endo. Maybe they can refer you?

    Lantus is for keeping you stable. You should give it in the bootie and if it's dropping you more than 40 points, it needs to be lowered. If you need More Humalog as a result, that doesn't matter. Just give more Humalog. :cwds:
     
  15. superjen

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    There has to be an underlining factor for your parents not taking you to a doctor, like maybe they don't have insurance or a high deductible. But it's no excuse. They could even get away with once every 6 months if it came down to expense versus every 3 months which is recommended.

    Couple of important things they check is your A1c which will tell if you have been keeping your bgs in range. My guess is you are on the higher side. Also you want to watch that you aren't getting keytones which with high sugars can cause damage to your organs.

    Maybe you can get the phone # to the endocrinology department of your local children's hospital and find out their hotline to at least ask questions. You can also speak to a Certified Diabetes Educator (CDE). They can advise you on not only insulin but also diet and dosing.

    If you are 18 then you might be able to get a job that would provide you with your own insurance and money to see a doctor on your own. If you are under 18 you may qualify for state assistance. Primary care doctors only think they can control diabetes, but someone on insulin really should see an endo in my opinion.

    Please take care of yourself!

    Jennifer
    dx 04/1999 (age 31-type 1), son dx 3/8/10 age 15
     
  16. Timmy Mac

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    Well.. good news. They finally took me to a doctor last February! (My Humalog pens were discontinued, not because they cared)

    My parents have decent insurance. 80/20 with $500 deductible and $20 doctor visits. The only diabetes-related thing it prevents is me getting a pump ($2500 after insurance)

    Anyway, I kinda snuck the test in. While the nurse was in there talking about my numbers (to which my parents replied "Oh hes very good all the time!") I mentioned that I haven't had an A1C in years, and they ordered a test. Even though my mom said I didn't need one.

    At least the result was good. 6.2!
     
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    Well done! Both in getting the A1C, and in managing the D so well.. :cwds:
     

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