My last comment on this thread... Chris and I BOTH apologized, publicly and privately. This got out of hand when everyone's intent was positive. I messed up - you know how when you're already having a bad day and something just rubs you the wrong way, and you overreact? That's what I did, and my guess is, we've all been there before. While I am a new D Mom, my fears are real, and I was attempting to relate to the OP's also-stated fears. Can we please stop this back-and-forth and get back to helping the OP?