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For New Families...Welcome to Holland

Discussion in 'Parents of Children with Type 1' started by Beach bum, Sep 10, 2011.

  1. Beach bum

    Beach bum Approved members

    Nov 17, 2005
    This poem was given to me after my daughter was diagnosed. It's circulated through here before, but I thought it would be good to post again.

    I found that it really put things in perspective for me and was helpful in conquering my fears of diabetes.


    Emily Perl Kingsley.
    c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved

    I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
    When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
    After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
    "Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
    But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
    The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
    So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
    It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandt's.
    But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
    And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
    But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.
  2. bnmom

    bnmom Approved members

    Oct 26, 2010
    That's really neat, thanks for posting.

    Now I'm wondering if that's where StillMamaMia on here got her tag line "still getting used to the tulips"?
  3. StillMamamia

    StillMamamia Approved members

    Nov 21, 2007

    :D You got it!:D

    Funny thing, I just came back from a 1 week vacation to Holland. Really nice place.:)
  4. bnmom

    bnmom Approved members

    Oct 26, 2010
    That is hilarious, I'm such a dork! All this time I thought you really lived in Holland...but must have recently moved since you were still getting used to tulips! lmao I should not be allowed out without a day pass :eek:
  5. frizzyrazzy

    frizzyrazzy Approved members

    Dec 23, 2006
    snort. I wonder what the excuse for the rest of us is?? lol
  6. KylesMom

    KylesMom Approved members

    Jun 12, 2011
    Thank you for posting this. You're right, it does really put things into perspective.
  7. cdninct

    cdninct Approved members

    Jul 29, 2011
    Thank you.
  8. mamamccoy87

    mamamccoy87 Approved members

    Nov 22, 2008
    Love this poem!! we first heard this after our 16 year old son was born with a heart defect and had his first open heart surgery. Thought about it again after Grace was dxd. Does put things into perspective.:cwds:
  9. tiger7lady

    tiger7lady Approved members

    Sep 14, 2010
    I've never seen this but I LOVE it! Thanks for sharing!

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