Hello. I'm new to this website, and I'm looking for support and suggestions from spouses of adults with Type 1 diabetes. My husband is 45 yrs old, and was diagnosed with T1 diabetes when he was 20. I met him when he was 26 yrs old, and we married two years later. I love my husband so much, but our marriage is in serious trouble, and I believe one of our biggest issues is my feeling of helplessness and hopelessness at being the wife of a diabetic. Early in our relationships, I learned the basics of diabetes, and became quite skilled in noticing the signs of an insulin reaction & responding to them. I researched diabetes management, and tried to share my "discoveries" with my husband, but I soon learned that he felt this was "his disease." He didn't want me trying to manage him or his diabetes so I reluctantly backed off. About 6 years ago, I decided I couldn't be passive any longer, and I insisted on going to dr. appts with him. For a while it helped me and us that I had become more involved, but over the past few years we've grown further apart as the complications of Type 1 worsen. We've been in weekly counseling since January, but I feel like I need to connect with others in my situation. If you've been there, I'm open to any suggestions. I really need help learning on how to love him without completely losing him or myself in the process. I'd also appreciate it if anyone knows of support groups that exist for spouses of adults with diabetes. I live in WA state, but I'd be open to on-line support groups as well. Thank you.