Just wanted to apologize for not coming back to my original post as I had planned. We had internet and computer issues! Anyway, thank you for all of the wonderful replies and suggestions (and moral support!!). I am now trying to do the diabetes stuff earlier in the dinner-prep routine and also, I just wait now to call the adults to the table until I and the kids are completely ready to eat. It has helped to take the stress off; and with the stress off, I was finally able to have really good (non-heated!) conversations with my mom and husband (separately) about it. So, it has gotten much better! I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who contributed. I don't know what I would do without the support of this forum. It is SOOOO nice to have other people who "get it." --Hope everyone is having a terrific day.