Samantha is turning 12 in a couple of weeks, and she can be very mature for her age, so it's easy to forget how much help she still needs in dealing with this. Her dad is making it all the more difficult. First of all, it's been 3 months now, and we're only now starting to get the insurance untangled enough that we can get enough supplies. Hopefully now we'll have enough that we can keep some at dad's house and not worry about it so much. The kids go there every weekend, and it's 80 miles away from my house, so it's VERY inconvenient if she forgets something. To say that my Ex is a First Class Jerk would be kind. I would say he's an undiagnosed bipolar narcissist, and that's not an exaggeration, it's an honest assessment of his personality. For instance, the first time Samantha ran out of test strips while at his house, they went to the store to get more, and when he saw they cost $28, he stood in the middle of the pharmacy and yelled at her for being so irresponsible, saying it was absolutely "egregiously overpriced" and he shouldn't have to pay so much for something so stupid. And that's not the last time he's done it, either. He argues with her about when she should get her shot (he takes them out to eat for just about every meal, so there's a timing issue regarding waiting for a table, waiting for their order, etc.), whether or not her hands are clean enough, whether or not she counted her carbs correctly, etc. Mind you, he hasn't bothered to learn any of this stuff on his own, he relies completely on HER knowledge and direction, and then second-guesses her when she says something. It's not even this petty ridiculousness that bothers me so much--the worst of it is this: he decided a long time ago that he needs to have "one-on-one" time with each of the kids, so in order to do that, he just takes one with him out to lunch or to the park or whatever, and leaves the other at home alone. My kids are 9 and (almost) 12! We're not talking 20 minutes here, we're talking about hours that they're left alone. I fought and fought with him about this, not because I don't think they should be left alone (I know it's a matter of opinion and I won't get anywhere with him on that argument), but because he doesn't have a phone in his house! He has an iPhone and doesn't see the need to get a landline or a second phone of any sort for the kids to use while he's not there. This started before the diabetes dx, and we fought like cats and dogs over it because I felt if there were an emergency, it would be disasterous, but even in non-emergencies, when they're feeling scared or lonely, why torture them by cutting them off from everyone?? He relented and got a second cell phone. Now my kids inform me that he never ACTIVATED the phone and they are forbidden to acutally USE it. I know for a fact he doesn't understand the dangers of leaving a diabetic 12 year old alone. But we've argued over this so much I just can't get through to him. He thinks I'm just trying to control him, or meddling into his business. He doesn't see the risk, it never occurred to him that she could have a sudden low and have a seizure or pass out or any other number of things. And now that I've brought it up, he won't budge because that would mean he'd have to admit he was wrong. Over the next couple of weekends, I know there will be plenty of people around for the holidays and Samantha's birthday, I don't worry that he'll try to leave her alone any time soon, but once they're back on a normal schedule, she's asked me to stay here for the weekend and let her brother go by himself. I know she's safer that way, but it's just infuriating that it comes down to this. Do you have someone in your life that refuses to learn about D? He thinks he knows everything already, so there's just no talking to him, and I don't know how else to get through to him other than refusing to let Sam stay with him until he agrees to make certain changes.