We do celebrate my DD's yearly anniversary. We have a special family meal and do all we can to focus on how proud we are of her for making good choices and being so resilient for another year. We try to not make it all about the hard work of living for a year as a child with D. Instead, we try to congratulate her on all that she has accomplished over the past twelve months. We don't go on a trip to celebrate, but I understand you wanting to make your son's day special. I can also appreciate you not wanting to travel on a sparsely populated road especially if you have had a negative experience there. Best of luck making your son's day special. Don't forget to celebrate all that you have done as a parent over the last twelve months. The mere fact that you are so carefully considering this decision merits a self pat on the back!