Last night my 14 yr old burst out with " why do you think I go to my friends house all day.... to get away from all the nagging!!" this summer has been really hard for all of us as we are seeing some members grow up and fly the coop- our 14 yr old is the youngest. We have lost alot of control with his D because he refuses to cooperate. He takes his insulin and checks his bs but not when gone with friends- he has breakfast but not until around 1030 and then no lunch because he is not hungry. Even one question from me such as " do you have all your supplies?" freaks him out. He does not understand the reasoning behind testing frequently when being active- he just drinks gatorade as he was told by the dietician to have 15gms /30 min of activity and he thinks that is enough. He doesn't log any numbers but will agree to sit down reluctantly with us to fill in his log every few days. His numbers are frequently high. One of the biggest sources of his anger is that he feels he has one set of rules and his brother has another. this is true because at this moment we don't trust that he is being responsible. We cannot get it through to him that if he watched his diabetes carefully he would be allowed more freedom. He refuses to tell people such as coaches that he is diabetic hence I do and then I get an earful about how it is ALWAYS ABOUT DIABETES. His anger is simmering right below the surface and we know he needs to see the social worker. I do not have alot of confidence in the D clinic as they have not been helpful teaching him D basics from the start ( 2 years ago)- looking back we realize he has never actually been told how to manage things on a day to day basis in language he can understand. He is not a child you can " ground" - he works best with being completely honest and setting guidelines. We just cannot get him to sit long enough to listen- he just slumps in a chair and closes down. Sometimes when he is mad enough he is struggling not to cry- my heart aches for him - I wish he would cry and scream and let it all out. I am so scared for him.