No of course I wouldn't, but my guess is that that is true of every generation of parents since time began. One's perspective as a parent is very different from one's perspective as a teen.. What I have particular difficulty with is a parent who got sloshed regularly as a teen, and yet would have a major problem with THEIR teen having a beer or two. Zero tolerance is all the rage in the US, but is criminalizing your country's teens really the best way to go? Even if they're not binge drinking, but just wanting to have a few beers in the company of their friends?! I am struggling with this question in a theoretical way right now, as thankfully DD so far can't stand the taste of alcohol and has no desire to try. Moreover, Canada is not the US so we don't need to worry about serious legal repercussions if she should experiment the way most teens do at some point or another. I hope to persuade her with well-reasoned arguments that drinking copious amounts of alcohol is a poor idea, in particular because she has Type 1 diabetes. I will make sure she knows what she needs to know to be safe when consuming alcohol, even as I also let her know that I think it is a poor idea for her. I will not take a "brick wall" approach, as it is clear that it would be as counterproductive with her as it was with me in my day. She unfortunately has my stubborn, independent streak. Cause for hope is that unlike me she often is able to learn from the experiences of others, without having to make every mistake herself.. :cwds: Anyways I very much appreciate the thoughts that people have provided on this topic. It is incredibly challenging. The comments in this thread have been heartfelt and thoughtful, and have given me much to think about.