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Special needs pass at theme parks: annoyed!

Discussion in 'Parents Off Topic' started by mmgirls, Jun 21, 2013.

  1. mmgirls

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    SO we went to a theme park after my second dd's Stanford OGTT appt.

    OUR VERY LAST RIDE of the night, we were waiting for the front seat of a ride when a "lady and 5 kids" decided to cut in front of us without a word to me or mine.

    We were closest to the ride operator since we were waiting for the first car of the roller coaster, and she just put her arm infront of us and get in line, WHILE getting the attention of the ride operator.

    When she got thier attention, she stated that her son had autisim and had a special needs pass and that 2 rides had gone by since they had got into line at the "exit" and that she did not think that he could wait any longer before he he would throw a tantrum. (her son and the 4 other kids were not complaining or throwing a fit by any means)

    Now her son, is not only in front of me and my kid but infront of the 2 younge girls by themselves that were in front of us! The mom says nothing to her son! and letts him be where is is now at, just telling him that he will have to wait 2 more rides until "they" get him on the ride with everyone else. The operators appologizes and asks if it is just her and her son, and she says no, the 2 of them and 4 other children.

    Once my brother that is waiting with us hears this he says, "your not really going to do this", he meant cut infront of us without a word? she turns and starts to explain that her son has Autism and that she does not think tht he can wait any longer without a tantrum and starts to cry. With her crying her son starts to cry, not a tantrum just softly crying.

    She decides to leave with all of her "kids", and we get the very last ride of the night. WHEN, we exit the ride she is sitting with everyone and speaks loudly at us as we exit that we "should have some compassion".

    I decide to walk over to her and have a convo, even thow my brother and husband say I should let it go.

    I say to her that my brother only meant to say that she should show common curtiousy and ask for permission to step infront of us and talk to the ride operator. She tells me that, her kid has Autisim and that he can not stand in line. I tell her that that is fine, if she thinks that she needs to have accomodations at the park that that is between her and the park. That she needed to deal with the park employees about the whole tihng and not just rudely step infront of my kiddo that has been waiting for the front seat. The common, excuse me please but I need to speak to the operator would have been nice.

    She is still mad, and my bro and hubby are telling me to lt it go. She is sitting there with all 5 kids, all being perfect little people, all by herself.

    I tell her that I understand, I have a dd with Type 1 Diabetes and point to her. That if she thinks that her sons needs these special privaledges that is fine by me, but that, the whole issue would have been
    avoided if she would have shown some common sence and asked if she could step infront of us and talk to the operator of the ride.

    She then says that she wishes we would have some empathy, I look her straight in the eye and say I DO have empathy for you, yet I do not have Sympahty, and I walk away.

    I sounded mean, I admit, but really if you think you need a "pass" for a kiddo you need to know how to go about using the accomodation to not involve in your personal drama with the general public that might have a veiw that you might not agree with.

    I know that this issue comes up from time to time on this site and all I have to say is that;

    IF you beleive that you kiddo that you are with need to not wait in line, that you do not personally cut in front of someone else. That you be assertive and make sure that you are not forgotten while waiting at the "exit".

    In today's theme parks we are very versed in people using a "fast pass" to not wait in line. I have no idea whether that person paid for the privledge or whether it was an accomodation, nor should I know, just don't expect me or anyone else to de fine an dandy with your rudeness.
     
  2. TheLegoRef

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    If your kid can't wait in line, even in the short line (and there are a ton now, "fast pass" "special needs" "parent pass") that most of the time has several people waiting, then amusement parks are not for you. Does she get to skip to the front of the line at food places too?

    There will always be someone rude somewhere. It's a bummer when it impacts your day.
     
  3. Beach bum

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    Sadly it seems that common courtesy is a lost art.
    I was recently reading where well off people are hiring disabled people to escort them through parks so they can get to the front of the line. That is crazy.

    Our good friend has Autism. He loves amusement parks. But his parents assess the situation and then decide if be will be able to wait. If it doesn't look right, they pass on it. Not ideal but its what works for them. And they would never just elbow their way in, she would go first to the exit and explain to the employee and wait for them to tell them what to do.
     
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  4. KatieSue

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    Sorry you had to deal with such rudeness. A few years ago we were at Disneyland at the second Pirates Movie premier red carpet. We had camped out for literally hours with no shade baking in the sun. About an hour before the stars started down the red carpet everyone got up and took places along the barrier. A woman came up with two children probably around 4 to 6 and demanded that everyone move out of the way so her children could get up front and see. When that didn't happen she started yelling at how rude everyone was. She tried to get a CM to help and they kind of told her sorry in a nice way. We'd all been there for hours, sorry lady.

    We go to Disneyland, a lot. We've had passes since the 90's. I know my kid and how much she can deal with. It's not my right to get on every single attraction etc. When she was younger I can't tell you how many times we had to get out of line almost at the front because she had to go - now. If you child has limitations in whatever way then you need to figure out a way to make it work. And I'm sorry but your child's limitations aren't my problem. Disney has systems set up to help you out but there's no need to be rude to other people.
     
  5. LucyAmber

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    I agree, if your kid(s) can't wait in a line, then a amusement park just isn't for you.

    And I agree with you, the mom could have said excuse me & asked if she could get in front of you to talk to the ride operator.
     
  6. Heather(CA)

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    OK, so it sounds like she could have handled it better. BUT, I disagree that a special needs kids (That have a hard time waiting in line) should not be able to go to amusement parks. It sounds like she was having a rough day...While I don't think jumping in the front was fine, they should have been able to ride.

    My two cents.
     
  7. mmgirls

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    I have NO ISUUE with her choice to use a special needs pass!

    But if the system that is in place fails you, you need to deal with the system, not be rude and take it into your own hands the cut inline with not only yuor kid but 4 other freinds!

    The park we were at has a "fast pass" line at the exit that they should have been using where they get on the ride first before anyone else. The general public need not even know.
     
  8. caspi

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    I agree! You said in your original post...
    It sounds to me that her kid was fine - she was the one that didn't want to wait any longer. The woman was totally out of line and was using her kid as an excuse, IMO. I don't blame you for being upset.
     
  9. Lee

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    I just don't like judging people - we simply do not know what the situation was based on a casual and ticked off observation.
     
  10. caspi

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    I'm not judging anyone, just responding to what the OP stated. And quite frankly, I'd be ticked off as well if someone cut in front of the line like that. But maybe that's just the New Yorker in me. ;)
     

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