Mel, it sounds like you were ambushed. Trust me, not all New Jerseyans are that ignorant. But I like to think that all New Jerseyans can be taught. I agree, send them an email, maybe links to some other D websites and hopefully they will finally get it. I like the sound of a great big CWD pool party -- pm me and I'll give you specific dates when I am not available and I promise to be flexible all other days. And as far as school your DD is concerned, read up on this recently instituted law regarding CWD rights in New Jersey schools. Better (I think) than a 504 -- an IEP!