I observed something last night that I thought I would share. We had our 504 meeting yesterday morning. It was relatively uneventful but as we have done for the past 12 years we went into it with all the necessary documents, lists, nurse supplies etc. We also scheduled a meeting with the varsity coach to review D stuff and planned a follow up meeting with the guidance counselor to tweak Maddie's college board accommodations. So, in short, the last few days have been pretty D saturated. Lots of talk and document generation and the tossing around of "accommodations" and "504 federally protected…" and so on and so on. Late in the evening our dd who is normally pretty easy going about all things D had a bit of a melt down. Suddenly it all sucked, and she hated the sensor and she was sick of juice boxes and so on and so on. And then I suddenly got it. She was observing us and seeing how stressed out we were, how tightly focused we had become on all things D and I think without a doubt she was feeling a flood of negative emotions about what her body had wrought on the family. I could see that we had unconsciously, unintentionally and recklessly made her health and her diabetes management into a giant guilt inducing elephant in the room. So that's the observation, and the caution is simply, "don't do this." Try to be mindful of how your "advocacy" looks to your kid, it may look very different from what you think you are projecting.