I haven't had the time to read all the responses, but I too am always the one in charge. I however learned a very valuable lesson a two weeks ago. Alexander had a terrible accident and had to be hospitalized and had to have surgery. I was unable to get a moment's peace, and I mean literally, as I was on constant watch of his blood sugar/diabetes, etc. I could NOT let my husband be in charge because he doesn't know enough. He knows the basics but no where near enough. If I had let him be in charge, who knows what would have happened to Alexander! Please, to all parents, don't let yourself get in the same boat if at all possible. I nearly had a breakdown from lack of sleep or rest. In hindsight, I wish I had taught my husband more, had insisted he learn more, and take more of an active role in our son's diabetes care. All's well that ends well as far as the hospital was concerned but it was very, very VERY stressful for me. That said, I should have just insisted my husband program Alexander's replacement pump, just to learn more about ratios, basal rates, etc. But did I? No. I need to take my own advice!!!