I recently read this book by Amy Chua. I had been seeing alot of controversy about this book on TV and in magazines so had to see for myself what it was all about. It was a difficult book to read in the way that it was hard for me to read it and remain non-judgemental about this person. I knew that she was raising her daughters the same way she herself had been raised and thought she was doing what was best for them. I still felt sad though when I read this list of things that her daughters were never allowed to do: Attend a sleepover Have a playdate Be in a school play Complain about not being in a school play Watch TV or play computer games Choose their own extracurricular activity Get any grade less than an A Not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama Play any musical instrument other then the piano or violin Not play the piano or violin They normally would practice up to 6 hours a day on their respective instruments. This included days when they were ill (Mother would give Advil or other medication) vacations (They would bring violin or see if a piano was available) It was also very painful to read about the time that her daughters made her home made birthday cards which she tossed back at them and said that they werent good enough, she wanted one that was better. I personally felt that Ms Chua was judging western parenting styles as she mentions this in the book often and seems to find us wanting. She also mentions in the book that Chinese openly compare their children in front of them and that it is perfectly acceptable to call a child fat That this will not lead to eating disorders or the need for therapy later on. I think it very well might. I kept thinking that their culture was extremely different then mine and that what I was experiencing through reading the book was "culture shock" All in all I found the book fascinating and wont say that I think her way of parenting is better or worse then mine or anyone elses but it was a glimpse into a different and alien way of parenting for me.