child, 19, not checking blood sugars, a1c through the roof!

[Ronin1966]

Hello jojouu:

All kinds of possibilities here... depends on which channel(s) you have used in the past to some extent. Lets start at the beginning.

TESTING, the act itself is still relatively new in the history. Before the mid/late 80's testing did not exist. There are many both here and elsewhere that never tested because it had not been invented yet. -Shrug- We are alive and doing fine thanks...

The testing obsession, many possess regretably does not guarantee an outcome. It may help, but there is no certainty here. Genetics appears to play a huge part too perhaps. Add that it hurts, it costs us our own blood, which myself I'm a huge fan of keeping in my own body thanks very much. Never been a fan. All of us do the very best we know how, and roll the dice. Get bad results enough and the process with time teaches despair. Not a great place to be... Diabetic long enough make numbers gnats on the windshield, something largely ignored or dismissed. But the readings themselves are just numbers nothing to panic over. Cope and keep going.

You can have conversations with us... but mandatory for such discussion(s) I contend is VULCAN DISPASSION. To get into our head you have to set aside the raw panic. In theory an adult, you'll need to talk with him as an adult. A young man. Drinking, sex, perhaps drugs, smoking who knows... all manner of things he may have been exposed to, had experience(s) with at school. If you want to have the diabetes conversation, you have to accept these possibilities.

Does he have a playmate/partner? Talk with them, if you dare. They too have "options" to nudge your son, if the relationship is strong enough.

You could openly endorse his dismissal... encourage it perhaps. A tune not many consider. Reverse psychology 101 with a serious side order of expert acting on your part. Hours after you get him that "HI", and he feels like dirt, then you ask him how he feels, tricked by his mom/dad.... setup in order to have a difficult conversation. A variation of the hangover game some play brutally on their kids knowing they are hung over wanting to teach them a lesson idea.

If you want to really start the conversation more testing, copy exactly what you hope/desire/expect him to do. Want 4 tests/day, they YOU perform 4 tests use generic strips, the cheap meter at the local pharmacy/store. Or simply prick your finger a minimum of four times per day for a week see what insight that provides. Gives a whole new perspective what you are asking....

DIABETIC VACCATION option.
For 72 hours you will take 100% control of his numbers and shots, eating just like when he was little. You dont talk about it, you don't discuss it until that time frame is over. Afterwards you have lots of things to discuss but in the meantime, you would like to give him a very intimate, very special gift, a vaccation. Afterwhich you will talk. His a** is yours for 72 hours and you will do it all.

A Standard cure for burnout....

Any of these useful ideas?