Marrying a T1

[shekov]

My brother was dx'd at 13 and is now 42. He is incredibly healthy..runs marathons and does triathalons. He has seen the quality of d care improve yearly and sees nothing but improvement in the future.

My sister in law educated herself and her family about d and there has been no problem. Even when their daughter was dx'd.

If you truely love this man and EACH of you understands what it means to be married and support each other through illness then I would go for it. It's not easy to start a marriage without your family's support. You'll need each other all the more.

[Lee]

Also - genetics does play a small role in children getting T1 (I say this because I am sure that is a part of your mom's fear!). However, it is not T1 that plays the genetics cad, it is ANY AUTOIMMUNE Disease what so ever; celiac, thyroid issues, certain skin issues, etc, etc, etc...the list goes on! My family has no history of T1, but it does have a history of Rheumatoid Arthritis on 1 side, and Celia and Thyroid issues on the other...

Marrying a man with T1 does NOT mean that your children will develop the disease!

I say, if you truly love this man, and feel deep down that he is the one for you, then overlook his diagnosis as a drawback - his diagnosis helped shape him into the man that you love!

[DylansMum]

Originally Posted by risha

Hi there
I am a 26 yr old woman from India, in love with a T1. My family is SOOO against it..No one is ready to support me..They keep telling me scary stories about diabetes, how it is a curse etc etc My mum especially ever since I have told her about my boyfriend, has turned to the astrologers for divine intervention. I did convince her to visit a diabetologist & seek advice & surprise, surprise, even the doc advised against it terming it as something which is 'abnormal' & said in case you have a choice then go for it. My maternal uncle, who is himself a bigshot cardiologist in India, also told my mum to avoid it..
I am so alone & shocked, if this is the attitude of the doctors then I really dont blame the ignorant people for thinking as they do.
Now i do understand that if diabetes can have serious complications if not managed well, but if managed well then?? Or is there no way to manage it??

Btw this guy i am raving & ranting about is really really the most wonderful man I have ever met although my mum rubbishes it as nothing but "infatuation"..

God, i really dont know what to do..am so TORN..

Wow, I am so sorry that your family are ignorant to this. Actually I am quite shocked. They obviously have done nothing to find out or read up on Type 1.
Go with your heart, I cannot believe people can be so ignorant and rubbish diabetes.

[RosemaryCinNJ]

Boo...My baby is only 2 and type 1 and to think that someone would not want to marry this blue eyed beauty because she is type 1...is heartbreaking!! Especially since I am doing all I can to make her life "normal" like any other kid!! For me to teach her to accept this diagnosis and she will because she was diagnosed so young...and then to have someone reject her because of it...I may go to jail!! you know what I mean.

[T1Spouse&Proud]

I married a TI, never regretted it once. It has it's challenges but nothing out of the norm ( well for us ). I know what is coming, it's just a matter of when and how bad, but as they say with love, it was never an issue. I would never change a thing.

[volund]

Sorry to hear that your parents are that set against your relationship.

You may try and get some hard facts for them, from reputable medical schools and researchers, and information about advances in T1 care in the past several years.

Even if they don't listen and support you, it shouldn't matter, follow your heart.

[Kent T]

I have T1 D, I married a Norwegian with T1D. She was a pumper even then and I was still on MDI. We and both adopted D kids pump, even the baby! Pure joy. All 4 of us also have spina bifida and use wheelchairs. All 4 of us very healthy otherwise.

[maha]

Originally Posted by risha

Hi there
I am a 26 yr old woman from India, in love with a T1. My family is SOOO against it...
Now i do understand that if diabetes can have serious complications if not managed well, but if managed well then?? Or is there no way to manage it??

Btw this guy i am raving & ranting about is really really the most wonderful man I have ever met although my mum rubbishes it as nothing but "infatuation"..

God, i really dont know what to do..am so TORN..

Managed well diabetes do nothing. There's way to manage it.
Tell your mom that you can marry a non diab guy and have children diabetic,
what will you do ? No more taking care about your child ?
You or some of your family can be diagnosed in some years (of type 1) even if they are old (I had a teacher who was diag type 1 at 50 years old).


Marry him if he is a nice guy and you love him.
He has nothing, he is diabetics that's all. That's not a big problem nowadays.
A diabetic can do what he want to do. I do.

[sisterbeth43]

Risha, my daughter Reann was dx'd at 13. At 18 she met a guy and he found out that night she had type 1 D. It didn't matter to him. They were married Dec. of 07 and all that matters to them is that they love one another. If you really love this man, go for it. I used to worry that no one would want to marry Reann because of the D, but Jon didn't let it bother him at all. Good Luck!