If you think her upcoming diaversary is affecting her, I'd ask her about it, even if you would rather it go by unnoticed. From year one, we made my son's diaversaries a happy, "mini-birthday" for which he gets a fun day as a recognition for how hard and annoying D is throughout the year. He picks what we have for dinner, we have an ice cream cake, and he gets a small gift. Perhaps, even if you don't think a diaversary should be a big fuss, a big fuss is what your daughter may need as a morale booster for all she endures. If you provide a lot of positive reinforcement for the things she does do to manage her D, it may inspire her to be a little more willing to have her BG checked.
Also, I agree that, for young kids, the whole responsibility of BG checks should not be on their shoulders. My son is 7, and I do the vast majority of his BG checks...he is only now just starting to do some...maybe a few times per week. This is definitely a burden that needs to be eased onto their shoulders slowly...sadly, they have plenty of years ahead to assume the responsibility on their own.
Mom to Rachel, 13 yrs old; Joey, 10 yrs old; Daniel, 8 yrs old, dx 9/08 (One Touch Ping, 11/09) and dx ADHD 12/10
Aunt to adult nieces Samantha, dx at 2 yrs old; and Abby, dx at age 25 [/COLOR]