I agree that he has got to have a lot going on emotionally trying to come to terms with this major thing that has happened to him. I know for us, (my dd and me), we kind of went through a progression of emotions. After the first few weeks we were tired of "being brave" and tackling things head on and were tired of dealing with it and wanted to be done. That not being possible, we moved into our phase of being angry at D. Luckily we've into (at least for now) the finding a new normal stage.
It sounds like he doesn't know how to deal with everything he's feeling and is expressing it in his behavior. He can't get mad and scream at D but he sure can at the people around him. (I mean that figuratively, he may not be "screaming" at anyone).
Someone else mentioned this, consistent expectations. I had to remind myself that the same rules still applied to my daughter as far as discipline and our expectations. I few weeks after she was dxd, I realized that I was letting her get away with behaviors I wouldn't have earlier because I felt so sorry for her, not to mention feeling a little guilty for being the one doing all this stuff to her. All of my kids test the limits....again, and again
It hurts so much to see our kids hurting
hope it gets better soon.
Karen, mom to four fantastic kids:
J (10), non-D
O (4), dx'd 3-4-11, MDI humalog, lantus
I (4), non-D
Z (12), non-D