I think I am just having a bad day, so please forgive me if I sound whiny or 'oh woe is me'. I realize there are many parents on here that have it worse than me, so again I apologize if this comes off wrong.
I know some adults with D and they seem to have happy perfectly normal lives. I just wonder if and when this will ever be for my child. My mother is in town...but I don't feel comfortable with her providing D care for a couple of reasons and even asking her to look after one of the boys is difficult...again for a couple of reasons. Let's just say it's not really an option. Hubby works (we are lucky) and I stay at home with the two kids as I am still on mat leave (again, we are lucky to have this ability). So other than hubby and I, we don't have anyone to take care of our d son. I just don't trust that anyone can recognize when he is going low because he is too young to communicate it. I am sure there are ways to deal with this I just haven't had much luck in finding the 'right' person and it is also cost prohibative. Talking to my SIL last night, she and her hubby just went away for the weekend and left the kids with the grandparents. Another girlfriend did the same thing this weekend. It seems so simple for families where D is not present. They were so happy and well rested and had...FUN. I realize some of this is the current situation (we still have a nursing baby) and some of it is the fact that D is present. We can't even go out for a night out without something happening. And it is hard to ask hubby to look after the 2 kids after work should I decide to go out and do something. Tt's just a lot going on. Again, I don't mean to sound whiny and I know it could always be worse, it is just that I am so tired and wonder if this particular phase is just that...a phase. Or will it always be difficult and challenging and that we will always worry and never stray far from home...even for an evening out. I guess I am asking those parents that have made it work....going out occassionally, getting small breaks from the kids, going back to work, etc etc. What tips do you have for me? Is it logistical? Is it an attitude change? Is it just a matter of time? I have three other friends here in town with small children with D and we all seem to be in the same situation...which worries me.