Does anyone have a great line or two that puts a stop to clueless parents who label you as overprotective? Sorry this is so long, I have to get it out.
This (current) issue is I decided my 13 year old daughter is not ready to go to a 5 Day NON diabetic camp. This was after a lot of thought and discussions with the camp. She just can't go without structure for that long, and the camp is not set up to give that. She is however, going to a 5 day diabetes camp (so there...I'm not keeping her in a bubble, LOL)
So, I'm being labeled as the overprotective Mom. One family even said it directly to my daughter. Then their teen came out to my car and announced that my DD would be going go to camp with them because there is a nurse there after all. Then the mother brought it up again in front of several parents as we were picking up from a birthday party and mentioned how great the camp was with her DD allergies (that's nice, but you have no idea what being a T1 even means - she's one of those with an aunt that's t2 and that makes her an expert on all things diabetes). I started to address the mom and then we were interrupted by the kids. Enough is enough, you know? My daughter is really bothered by this, not only is she different for being diabetic, but now people think her mom is weird.
In case you are wondering, here is why I said no to the camp: Feel free to skip ahead.
1) Like many teens, my 13 year old does not always do what she should be doing for her T1 around other people. She is a good girl, but she doesn't want people to know she's diabetic, so there are times when she doesn't count carbs, doesn't want to test, waits too long to treat a low, ignores her alarms, or doesn't bolus because there are new people around. My heart breaks for her. Fortunately, she's much better around small groups of friends and at home. We are working on changing this and building her self esteem all the time, and we have made some improvements, but it is a process and it is not going to happen overnight. She will not be ready to go to this particular camp this year. Plain and simple.
2) We are in a period of rapid volatility. My daughter is 13 and the puberty/hormone thing is a roller coaster. Her insulin needs can vary anywhere from 40 units a day to 90 units. Her insulin sensitivity changes throughout the month. She is at times hypoglycemic unaware. Like many of you, I have forgotten what it is like to regularly get 7-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep. It requires a ginormous amount of management and more importantly JUDGEMENT to keep her healthy. I don't have the confidence that this particular camp has the right resources to monitor her for 5 days, especially since my teen likes to pretend everything is fine and she doesn't have diabetes
So, I'm looking for some great verbage to handle these types of scenarios. I'd love to hear how you guys have handled other clueless parents who think you are crazy for saying no to your teen. Did you give them a crash course in T1? Tell them to mind their own damn business?