daughter with attitude

[shirley83006]

:(i have been really hating d's lately more then ever. my daughter shannon is giving me a hard time everyday. when it is time for to eat and she sometimes, tries to eat and we always have to say something. "Are you forgetting something??" she like i know and then she gives an attitude and gets upset. this happens all the time. and she has been eating alittle this and that and her numbers have been high alot. and i feel like i have to be on her all the time. i feel like i am baggering her all the time. and i hear all the time when they get in their teens how difficult it is. and i am terrified. i wish she would just do what she has to do when needed. and then this d's would not be such a big issue everyday.

[MamaC]

I have to say, the title of your post caught my eye purely because I have a daughter with attitude. Period. Has nothing to do with diabetes, she just has an attitude. Always. In all things.

If this is new to your daughter you might write it off to the diabetes. My kid is just unpleasant :rolleyes:

Good luck!

Becky

[shirley83006]

I have to say, the title of your post caught my eye purely because I have a daughter with attitude. Period. Has nothing to do with diabetes, she just has an attitude. Always. In all things.

If this is new to your daughter you might write it off to the diabetes. My kid is just unpleasant :rolleyes:

Good luck!

Becky
yeah i would say this is from the diabetes.

[Ellen]

:(i have been really hating d's lately more then ever. my daughter shannon is giving me a hard time everyday. when it is time for to eat and she sometimes, tries to eat and we always have to say something. "Are you forgetting something??" she like i know and then she gives an attitude and gets upset. this happens all the time. and she has been eating alittle this and that and her numbers have been high alot. and i feel like i have to be on her all the time. i feel like i am baggering her all the time. and i hear all the time when they get in their teens how difficult it is. and i am terrified. i wish she would just do what she has to do when needed. and then this d's would not be such a big issue everyday.

I hear your frustration and you're not alone. You may want to step back a little and recognize that Shannon is only 8 years old and her job is to be a little girl. You're going to have to be her coach and cheerleader with the diabetes for many years to come. Try to phrase things in a positive way, it may feel better for her on the receiving end, and you'll feel less like you're badgering. Asking if she forgot something may feel negative for her. Expressing what needs to be done will serve as a reminder and can be done gently. "I see you're hungry, let's get the meter and the insulin so you can eat." Also, try to acknowledge the things she does. "Thanks for checking." "I saw you were hungry. Thanks for letting me know you ate a little extra so we can cover it with extra insulin." "Thanks for waiting until you got the insulin and we all sat down for dinner." The praise goes a long way in building self-confidence and efficacy with respect to the diabetes tasks.

Remember to praise yourself too as a mom for all you do to make life good for Shannon.

[wilf]

:(i have been really hating d's lately more then ever. my daughter shannon is giving me a hard time everyday. when it is time for to eat and she sometimes, tries to eat and we always have to say something. "Are you forgetting something??" she like i know and then she gives an attitude and gets upset. this happens all the time. and she has been eating alittle this and that and her numbers have been high alot. and i feel like i have to be on her all the time. i feel like i am baggering her all the time. and i hear all the time when they get in their teens how difficult it is. and i am terrified. i wish she would just do what she has to do when needed. and then this d's would not be such a big issue everyday.

What sort of insulin regimen are you on? Is it maybe part of the problem? Sounds like your daughter may be a grazer (like mine), in which case she'll always wanting to be snacking. There are ways of giving the insulin that would let her graze AND keep her BG in good range..

[Lee]

Maybe try to take some of the responsibility off of her shoulders. She is 8, so set some rules with a reward system...ok, I tell you to test before you eat and you do without attitude, you get a quarter...etc, etc, etc. This type of system works very well with my 8 year old.

Plus, with you reminding her, she is now able to let go of having to remember to test.

We went to a parenting coach that deals specifically with diabetics and this was her suggestion, and it worked! The rules:

I say it, you do it (can be anything) 25 cents
I say it twice - dime
I say it 3 times - nickel
etc.

Parents rules: Say it, don't ask
Test your blood sugar now, honey vs. Why don't you test now, honey?
You can not take away from her money jar...she earned it, she keeps it

We decorated a specific jar and use cold hard cash...we have also tried ***** chips that she trades in for a reward, but cash works great.

Also, if you see her testing before she eats, give very positive and specific praise. The psych made sure to point out that kids do things to get attention, so give the attention for being good. She had us stick soemthing on the fridge door and on the bathroom mirror. Every time we saw it, we had to stop and give praise to our kids...

Good job for being active a hula hooping vs. why are you hula hooping in the house

Thank you for being so polite when asking your sister for the remote control vs, thanks for being such a good kid...

Thank you for testing before eating that snack vs, did you test for that???

If she says I didn't, say, ok, thank you for telling me, lets test real quick and give you your shot...

My d with a attitude lapped it up and it really changed our house. Oh, and we don't have to do the rewards anymore!