Family members in denial (vent)

[KeltonsMom]

I have been keeping both of my parents up to date on all my medical stuff..Today I received an email from my father telling me that he does not accept my diagnosis and I should go to another state and to a different doctor for a third opinion..I understand where he is coming from. Then I get a phone call from my mom telling me that diabetes is NOT in our family, never mind that my sister was recently diagnosed with Delayed Onset Type 1 or my uncle (mom's brother) was a type 1 or her father died from complications due to type 1. And that it is my ex-husbands fault that Kelton and I both have diabetes WTH??

I calmly told my mother, no it is not my ex's fault that Kelton and I both have D it is from a family history of it..She then tells me that the D that they all have/had has nothing to do with the D that Kelton and I have and she wants to find my ex and do bodily damage to him LOL..Sorry I shouldn't laugh, but if she can find him it will be a miracle..The child support office can't find him, so my mom won't either..

I know they do not want Kelton or myself to have D...Neither do I, but there comes a time when one has to learn how to accept the facts..

Granted the facts are a hard pill to swallow..I did tell my mom it is not her fault so to stop pointing the blame elsewhere..

I am so thankful that Mark, Nik and Kelton understand and told me we will deal with this one day at a time, and not play the blame game..

Okay rant over...:rolleyes:

[Lee]

Moms...enough said! At least she didn't move in with you...lucky girl :mad:

[KeltonsMom]

Moms...enough said! At least she didn't move in with you...lucky girl :mad:

I would run away from home if she decided to move in with me..She and I cannot be in the same room for more than an hour or all heck will break loose, and this is with me holding my tongue :eek:

[Pavlos]

...my mother too refuses to accept that my daughter who was recently dx'ed with T1 has D, and is convinced it will go away with time through constant prayer...:(

Such delusions and a healthy dose of praying seems to help her cope with the new reality, so I just grin and bear it...:rolleyes:

[WestinsMom]

I was once, in a round about way, told by my grandfather that if I had been going to church, Westin wouldn't have been diagnosed with D. I let that slide. I don't see him but every few years anyway.

[Pavlos]

I was once, in a round about way, told by my grandfather that if I had been going to church, Westin wouldn't have been diagnosed with D. I let that slide. I don't see him but every few years anyway.

I had a similar sad experience from a (previously) dear relative who told me that I had my daughter wear a crucifix she would not have D today. :eek: I replied that if God were indeed such a petty and vindictive character, I would not want to have anything to do with Him/Her... :cool:

[KeltonsMom]

I had a similar sad experience from a (previously) dear relative who told me that I had my daughter wear a crucifix she would not have D today. :eek: I replied that if God were indeed such a petty and vindictive character, I would not want to have anything to do with Him/Her... :cool:
Oh yes, I too was told by my new-aged sister that because of something I did in a past life is why Kelton has D :rolleyes:

[Pavlos]

Oh yes, I too was told by my new-aged sister that because of something I did in a past life is why Kelton has D :rolleyes:

With all due respect to everyone's beliefs, my daughter's experience with D has only strengthened my faith in atheism :D

[OSUMom]

With all due respect to everyone's beliefs, my daughter's experience with D has only strengthened my faith in atheism :D

With respect as well :cwds:, my thoughts have been different. Dean's diagnosis strengthened my belief in God. Had circumstances not panned out how they did on June 20, 2006, I'm not so sure Dean would still be with us today. His blood sugar was over 1,000 in the ER. :cwds:

[KeltonsMom]

:mad::mad: Just got off of the phone with my mother again..

Here are her orders: I am to eat nothing but raw foods for 6 months and my D will go away LOLOLOLOL

If this doesn't work then I am to have ozone injected into my blood LOL

If this doesn't work then I am to do like my sister and not eat any carbs and only use the inhaled insulin, because according to my mom inhaled insulin is not the same as injected insulin LOL

And if this doesn't work then I am to drink nothing but some kind of juice, I forgot the name of it, but it is found in the Rain Forrests..LOL

I asked her what else I should try if this doesn't work and she told me to take the pills..

I started to laugh, hysterically, and she asked me what I was laughing at..I asked her to explain to me the D that Kelton has, and she told me he has type 1 where the beta cells have been destroyed by the immune system..I told her she was right, then I told her this is the type of D I have...She got silent...Two minutes passed by before she said anything..

Finally she asked me if the tumor was the reason I was not diagnosed earlier, I told her YES!! This is what I have been trying to tell her all this time and she refused to listen..(none of this is news to her, I told her all of this last week)

She said 'oh'

Now she wants to send me money to make herself feel better :rolleyes:

She asked how much money I want her to send to me, I told her that I don't need any money..She told me she has to send me some money to make up for the fact that there is a family history of type 1 in our family and it is her family lines that did this to Kelton and myself..

Oh boy, now what do I do?

If she sends me money and if I do not cash the check then she will be angry and hurt and I will never hear the end of it..

Why can't I have a 'normal' mother?:confused:

[yeswe'rebothD]

Tell her (after you do so) that you have donated the money to JDRF! This will help educate the public...

BTW, does she or your sister know that the inhaled insulin is being pulled? It will be NLA very soon, if not already. Its manufacture was halted earlier this year. Too inconsistent or something.

[KeltonsMom]

Tell her (after you do so) that you have donated the money to JDRF! This will help educate the public...

BTW, does she or your sister know that the inhaled insulin is being pulled? It will be NLA very soon, if not already. Its manufacture was halted earlier this year. Too inconsistent or something.
I am sure if they don't know they will soon enough..

I was thinking of donating the money to a good cause, and I will if she sends it..

[OSUMom]

I don't know after the year you've had, I might be inclined to take part of it and get a massage and something for the family - but I know it's the principle of the whole thing. :rolleyes:

[KeltonsMom]

I don't know after the year you've had, I might be inclined to take part of it and get a massage and something for the family - but I know it's the principle of the whole thing. :rolleyes:You know that sounds rather tempting..I will donate 3/4 of the money and then get a message with the rest..:D