Bummed out, sad non D related news

[ScottB]

I know this may not be the appropriate forum for this but this is the only one I go to and I've got to get it off my chest.

Our boys found out today at their HS that a bowling teammate of theirs committed suicide last night. Monticello is a small town so at the moment, all kinds of rumors/stories are flying as to what pushed the young man to take his life. My oldest went to "My Space" where his friend had a blog site and we read his last blog that he made some time yesterday. It didn't say exactly what was wrong but it was clear that some thing was eating him up so bad that he couldn't take it. Needless to say the entire HS was stunned when all the students were informed today.

I know death is a fact of life but when I see a child, any body's child, I see the potential future. I'm not talking about ESP or anything, I mean simply seeing a young person who may have the potential to be an asset not just to humanity but to this planet as well and to see some one so young lose their life, regardless if it be by disease, accident or in this case suicide tends to sadden me because you always end up asking "what if..." and I've made it very clear to our boys that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

[Mom2rh]

I am so sorry. {{{hugs****** to your boys. That is so senseless...we talk to Ryan about this.

[Abby-Dabby-Doo]

I'm sorry to hear of the loss. I'll add this child's family to my prayers.
I'm glad to hear you took some time to explain this to your kids. That can be some very powerful wisdom some day and you don't even know it.

[wendyc]

I'm sorry for your childrens loss.
It breaks my heart that someone is so desperate and alone feeling that the feel the need to take their own life.

[Boo]

We had a similar situation in our high school just a couple of weeks ago. My children are younger, so they didn't know the boy. I have met the mother (who seems to be a lovely lady) several times. I cannot begin to fathom the pain that these families must be in after a loss like this. It is every parent's worst nightmare. I worry about the added pressure that D puts on our kids. I hope that my children never feel THAT hopeless. :(

Are there counselors being made available to the kids at school?

[mom2kenny]

How sad, I just hope i would be able to detect that my child was to that point, but i doubt that the signs are always obvious to a parent. I am from indiana too, I know a couple of people that live there

[ScottB]

The boys said counselors were available at the main gymnasium and though our boys were a bit stunned, they're taking the news OK. It's actually my wife and I that are stunned the most because as parents, we can only imagine the grief the young mans parents are going through. I've got a feeling it may get worse at school and maybe the whole town because so far it seems to be a result of some severe disciplinary action taken by the school's vice principle in regards to an incident the young man was blamed for that he insisted he had nothing to do with but was disciplined for it anyhow and it seems the young man was telling the truth after all.

Like I said before, all kinds of stories are flying at the moment but if the above is the truth and being this is a small town, the whole town will be wanting answers from the vice principles office because both our boys told us flat out that the vice principle is horrible and how 1 of the young mans teachers was in a screaming argument with the VP today.

[sheila]

How incredibly sad....

[allisa]

That is heartbreaking.....and yes....it will stay with your boys for a long time.....I knew a boy who had a sister who killed herself.....and I am still touched by that over 20 years later.

It is so sad that a teen can't see any hope.

Talk to your boys....let them discuss with you.....that poor family

[AJsmom]

This is so sad and my heart breaks...Someone that AJ knows killed himself 2weeks ago. AJ had a difficult time wrapping his head around this (as we all do). His bg was high for days as he delt with this. What's the families name so we can all pray for them?
Laura

[Emma'sDad]

Hate to shove the stick in deeper into this sad subject, but counselling is very important to all the students in a HS and not just the ones that go see the counsellers. It's the ones that don't go see them that are the problem. This happened to my HS about 10 years ago. One kid killed himself and suddenly it became the "in" thing to do. An epidemic if you will. Don't know what those kids were thinking.