What do you answer

[albasmom]

when people ask you how it's going with dd or ds? I will usually just say that it's going ok, but sometimes I just want to scream because it's going anything but ok. I really want people to understand how hard it is, and I know that it is impossible unless you deal with it everyday. I guess it's just been bothering me lately. What do you say?

[Caydens_Mommy]

I usually tell people we have our days, but all in all things are going well. I also tell them that he has adjusted to it and handles things very well.. And unless they go on and ask more questions, I don't usually go any farther, because in all honesty unless they are living it they will have no idea just how extreme it really is..

[LJS118]

I know exactly how you feel, and I am curious to see what everyone else says. I always just say "okay, as good as it can be".

[zell828]

When acquaintences ask me how my SD is doing I will just say "fine". If it is a family member or close friend I will go in more detail and be honest. I don't think acquaintences really want to know details and just ask to be polite IMO.

[Lee]

Boy - I think my first year, when someone would ask me, I would have a total meltdown. Now, when people ask - it depends on if my kid is around or not - if she is, I will say -It is going great, she is so responsible and takes really good care of herself.

If it is just me, I say - flat out - it just sucks. It is a lot of work, and alot of lost sleep - but she is healthy, happy ,and normal and so that makes it all totally worth it!

PS- the other day, I was talking to a bunch of girl scout moms - one of them said her niece was diagnosed a little while ago. Said she was real sick and stuff. Another mom said - what would have happened if they waited longer. My and my non existent filter piped up and said - Well, good thing she did or she would have died.

I walked away amid the gasps of shock. I think it may be a while before I am invited back.

[cadesmom]

I have excepted the fact that no one understand's if they don't live with it, so I just say, This is about as good as it's going to get.

[Thoover]

I do say we have our days when people ask however when the kids aren't around and I talk to my best friend Desi, I can break down and cry with her. She understands and is always there to listen. And then I get myself back together and tell her thanks for letting me vent on you.. Im surprised she still has stayed around.

Some people will get it and some are just idiots that don't.

I do have to say is they never realy understand until my friends actually looked at all the YOUTUBE video's of children with this disease. Then it actualy hits home.

[StillMamamia]

I usually answer 'Things are going ok, some days better, some days could be better.' I don't go into details (unless it's a really close friend or family member) because I usually get the 'Oh, but you should try...'. That's not what I need.

[mapoe4]

I hate it when people say to me and dh that it could be worse. when John first got dx they would tell dh all the time. He was telling his boss this the other day and his boss came up with it could be better that my dh could have it. He told him that he would in a heartbeat just so his son wouldn't have to spend the rest of his life this way.

[Momof4gr8kids]

For me it depends on the person. If they are asking to be polite, I just tell them she's doing well. If the person really wants to know, I tell them how it's going.

[danismom79]

I usually just say she's fine. It depends on who's asking though. There are always people who hear me say "fine" and I can see on their faces that they're thinking that's just a cover. But really, she's doing fine.

[mlbertness]

I too hate answering that question, I usually just say "good" because what else is there to say. People just don't understand that managing BG's is a full time job! I have people asking me all the time if it will get any easier, my daughter has severe highs and lows with no reason other than hormones and stress. Of course everyone knows someone who's kid "isn't that bad!"
grrrrrrrrr
I don't know what to say either :(

[mapoe4]

I hate it when people say to me and dh that it could be worse. when John first got dx they would tell dh all the time. He was telling his boss this the other day and his boss came up with it could be better that my dh could have it. He told him that he would in a heartbeat just so his son wouldn't have to spend the rest of his life this way.

[Abby-Dabby-Doo]

I respond by either...
She's right on target today
She's a little high today
She's been having a lot of lows today
She's going through a growth spurt so she's all over the board.

At the end I always mention, it varies from day to day

[liasmommy2000]

Depends on who is asking and how interested I think they are etc. For the most part I just say she's doing fine, that we do have bad days but overall, just fine.

I do have family members and acquaintances who are more interested and I will go into more detail, but most people are just being polite and are only vaguely interested.

We have however been lucky in that most family and friends do seem to "get it" as much as those not directly affected can. I haven't had near the amount of rude or ignorant comments that many seem to get.

[Emma'sDad]

My and my non existent filter piped up and said - Well, good thing she did or she would have died.



OMG your bluntness is too funny. No use massaging the truth, she asked a serious question, you gave her a serious answer. Good for you Becky! :)

[mlbertness]

OMG your bluntness is too funny. No use massaging the truth, she asked a serious question, you gave her a serious answer. Good for you Becky! :)

I agree! I think things like that help get the point across as to how serious it is! People generally think "oh it is just diabetes, it is MANEGABLE!" I hate that word, if it is soooo manegable why don't you MANAGE it for a day :eek:

[Sandy's mom]

Recently when people ask I've been telling that Sandy is getting her pump in next week or two, they usually say- "great, no more shots!" People seem to think we go to the doctor, get the pump put on, that's it, she's fine. No more shots...

I want to live in that D-ville Lanae was talking about in another thread, you all "get it".

[Lisa P.]

I usually say "We're figuring it out." Makes me sound positive without lying, although I'm sure I'm not fooling the people who know me and my black heart!
When they ask how she's doing, I'm never sure if they are asking in general or about her diabetes, and sometimes answer the wrong direction! I don't want to assume any time they ask about her they're asking about the diabetes, but I don't want them to think it's somehow a taboo subject, I appreciate that they care and have an interest. It can be strange.

[Zane's Mom]

Boy - I think my first year, when someone would ask me, I would have a total meltdown. Now, when people ask - it depends on if my kid is around or not - if she is, I will say -It is going great, she is so responsible and takes really good care of herself.

If it is just me, I say - flat out - it just sucks. It is a lot of work, and alot of lost sleep - but she is healthy, happy ,and normal and so that makes it all totally worth it!

PS- the other day, I was talking to a bunch of girl scout moms - one of them said her niece was diagnosed a little while ago. Said she was real sick and stuff. Another mom said - what would have happened if they waited longer. My and my non existent filter piped up and said - Well, good thing she did or she would have died.

I walked away amid the gasps of shock. I think it may be a while before I am invited back.
My son was diagnosed in March - he is 4. I don't think I would have understood how serious diabetes can be either. Until it happened to me and I saw my son fade away to nothing within just a few hours.......I will never be the same and I appreciate how diligent we have to be with controlling BS. I say - Hooray for you - other parents, caregivers, etc. should be educated on how serious the situation can be!

[StillMamamia]

PS- the other day, I was talking to a bunch of girl scout moms - one of them said her niece was diagnosed a little while ago. Said she was real sick and stuff. Another mom said - what would have happened if they waited longer. My and my non existent filter piped up and said - Well, good thing she did or she would have died.

I walked away amid the gasps of shock. I think it may be a while before I am invited back.


LOL...Love it! :D

[TracieandJim]

My and my non existent filter piped up and said - Well, good thing she did or she would have died.

I walked away amid the gasps of shock. I think it may be a while before I am invited back.

Funny! For me it depends who asks. Some people read like a book so for them I say hes fine. Someone else who seems more sincere I tell them straight up hes high, low.. whatever. Many times I get a blank stare and then I realize they didnt really want to know. ha. So. I move on. But if they continue to ask then I let em have it and load em up with info until they figure a way to squirm out of the conversation and run away :D

[jules12]

People generally think "oh it is just diabetes, it is MANEGABLE!" I hate that word, if it is soooo manegable why don't you MANAGE it for a day :eek:


oooooh that get's to me too - or how about this "Is he in control?" or "does he have good control." At the eye doctor yesterday, the gal who works in the office asked me about my son and said her 4 year old niece has diabetes but she is not in control - my son must be in very good control - She was young or I might have said something else - but I just looked at her and no one is ever in "control" of this disease.

Most people just don't get it so I usually just say - he is doing great - that is really what most people want to hear anyway!

[danismom79]

Recently when people ask I've been telling that Sandy is getting her pump in next week or two, they usually say- "great, no more shots!" People seem to think we go to the doctor, get the pump put on, that's it, she's fine. No more shots...

I want to live in that D-ville Lanae was talking about in another thread, you all "get it".

Before my daughter was diagnosed, I'd heard of the pump, but I too thought it was permanently implanted. :o

[CJ's Mom]

I agree! I think things like that help get the point across as to how serious it is! People generally think "oh it is just diabetes, it is MANEGABLE!" I hate that word, if it is soooo manegable why don't you MANAGE it for a day :eek:


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[kyleesmom]

People ask me this a lot too. We live in a very small town and Kylee was Life Flighted out, so everyone knew something had happened and it doesnt take long for word to spread here about who was flown out and why. Most people I just tell that she is doing fine. They dont really want to know specifics. Some people I tell the truth, that she is up and down and summer and all its activity is killing us. It just depends on who the person is.

[albasmom]

Thanks for the replies. I got some much needed inspiration. And you guys are really funny too :)

[usbornetheresa]

I try to gauge their sincerity before I answer. My usual response is "as well as could be expected" for people that are just asking to be polite.

[Karenwith4]

It depends on who is asking, why and who is around.
For close friends or family like my MIL I will let them know the details about how she is (A1Cs, if she's been steady) because I know that is why they are asking. For less interested family I do a quick rundown usually focused on the positive. (all assuming there aren't little ears around).
For acquaintances who are asking to be polite I thank them for asking because it is kind of them to think of us and say she's doing really well (because she is).
If Em is listening I make sure to talk about how well she is doing and how I am constantly impressed with how she handles all of this. She is truly amazing. If her siblings are listening I will talk about how they are all so supportive because I want them (and others) to know I acknowledge that this can affect the whole family, and it takes the whole family to deal with it successfully.