Very Personal: Can't I get a break?!!!

[Mom2Deacon]

Just when I think I can't be shocked or thrown for a loop, I get this. I had to have a pelvic exam a day ago. I made the appointment because I believe that my fibroids have been creating problems and it has been two years since my last one. Well, during the actual pelvic exam the doctor begins asking me questions and after a few says, "You seem to have an STD." :eek::eek::eek:This is when I start blubbering that is impossible. How can that be? I haven't had intercourse in over year, etc..How could I have not known this. I have only been with my husband. etc... My doctor tells me what medications she is going to give me and how long to take them for. I need to have an ultrasound to see if the fibroids are causing problems. I am still in shock and blubbering though. I am hoping that the doctor doesn't see me as one of those women who sleep around and I am lying about being surprised. I ask which STD and she says it looks like chlamydia and that I need to focus ahead. That I have my kids and classes. That this is easily treatable. She says it may not be an STD but from the way she was talking it seems highly unlikely that that is the case. Now I have to wait for the test results before I can go and confront DH. Does anyone know if a doctor can really tell if it is an STD without the test?

I am a nervous wreck and angry too. I am wondering how this has gotten through other rounds of antibiotics I have had for the past year. The antibiotics I have had are used for this but I think they just weren't high enough dosages. How I could not have known about this and how much damage has been done. I am taking the medication I was prescribed. I have my ultrasound tomorrow and a blood draw for anemia. Please keep me in your prayers. I am hoping that the fibroids are easily fixable and I am hoping that it is my fibroids and not something else.

--Sara

[etringali]

Have you had any upper respiratory infections in the past year? Apparently, some of them can actually be caused by the Chlamydia bacterium. I suppose if it's in your body, it can take up residence anywhere. Hubby will need to be treated too so you don't just pass it back and forth, which may be why previous antibiotics didn't wipe it out.

[Mom2Deacon]

Have you had any upper respiratory infections in the past year? Apparently, some of them can actually be caused by the Chlamydia bacterium. I suppose if it's in your body, it can take up residence anywhere. Hubby will need to be treated too so you don't just pass it back and forth, which may be why previous antibiotics didn't wipe it out.

I haven't been with DH for over a year. I haven't slept with anyone in over a year. So passing it back and forth isn't an option in this case. This is one of those nasty surprises that just may prove my suspicions about DH in the first place.

--Sara

[BeckyND]

I will be praying for you. I hate not knowing a final diagnosis and being faced with all the "what ifs..:( " Hugs to you, I know this is very stressful.

[Mama2H]

I am so sorry Sara! I have no answers to your questions but will keep you in my prayers :( And if it does come back as an STD I am sure we can form a CWD lynch mob and find your dh in a dark alley!

[hawkeyegirl]

I'm really sorry. The good news is that chlamydia is super common and super treatable. The antibiotic will knock it right out. It's one that is symptomless in a lot of people, so you may have had it a while and not known it. And maybe you don't even have it. I don't think it's diagnosable with just a "look-see." The test could still come back negative.

Please don't worry about being embarassed about this. Your doctor probably sees many, many cases a week, and if she's a good doctor, she's very nonjudgmental about things like STDs.

Take care. You've had your share of crap luck lately. I hope it all turns around for you.

[etringali]

Apologies- I read quickly, with kids climbing on me and sometimes miss important details, ie, been a year since last intimate relations. Will gladly assist in the lynching should that deem necessary.

[Mama Belle]

Aw, man Sara, I am sooooo sorry! I have no info for you about STDs but will gladly volunteer to join the lynch mob.

[Caydens_Mommy]

I have also heard of people who had been told that they had it , but then when it was time for their next exam it had disappered, and they had not taken any medicine.. So maybe this will be the case! In any case if your husband had been sleeping around on you, it's not your fault.. Like others have said don't be embarassed by this.. Try to keep your head up Sara, I think you are a very strong Women!

[czardoust]

Im so sorry (you must be in pain). :( The bad news is, it can be with you for yrs undetected. and STD really should not hold the stigma that society puts on it. Makes it sound so shameful. I had HPV, a virus that is considered a STD, I probably contracted it in my teens, but it didnt show until I was 30. Then became cervical cancer, stage 2A. Its very important to get yearly check ups even though they suck. :o Im also guilty of delaying years in between check ups, even after my hysterectomy I need one yearly. Dont feel bad for having it, its very important to get it treated, when the doctor gets the correct dx. I hope everything turns out ok for you.

[Lee]

Bastard - will it let me say that???? What everyone else is saying is true - you can have it with no symptoms for years!!!! You are getting treated, your gyno really doesn't care other than getting you treated, and I am sure she saw your shock and emotional turmoil!

I know you have had a rough time, and that sometimes you wonder if you made the right decision ~ well, now you know - and when you tell him - don't let the jerk turn the table around...sneaky bastard! Slimy - just slimy! Lynch mob just got one bigger!

[Midwestmomma]

Count me in!!!!! Just let me know what supplies we need...I haven't done a lynching for quit some time.......;):)

[Mom2Deacon]

I know it couldn't have been with me when I had Deacon which was 4 years ago. I was tested thoroughly for everything. I always ask for that option when I am pregnant. I doubt it was with me two years ago either. I think the doctor saw some convincing signs like my cervix being inflamed and mucous which is a convincing sign of chlamydia. I know it hurt when they did the exam. I was saying it hurt too. When she said it may not be an STD was when our conversation was almost over and I think she said it to soften the blow. I am so angry and I am going to give DH a thorough verbal tirade if the results are positive. My parents are quite upset too. My mother said now she actually just may have to murder him. I am furious because this is my health. Who knows how much damage it has caused. This leads to PID and unfortunately I have had those symptoms too. I will not hold back with DH if this is true. I am just as angry as I was when I first found out. I am going to have an HIV test done too. Sigh. What did I do to deserve this?

--Sara

[Abby-Dabby-Doo]

I can get my hands on a pitch fork- COUNT ME IN! :cool:

Sorry to hear this Sara. The important things is, it's treatable and lots of attorneys out there for your divorce.

[StillMamamia]

Just wanted to send you my (((HUGS))) !

[shekov]

So sorry for you. I would have to guess that thisisn't the first time your Dr. has has an affair confirmed by an STD. Both my mom and I have had friends find out about a cheating spouse this way.

[RosemaryCinNJ]

Sara...I am sorry...I know all those emotions are all coming out again and are certainly all over the place now. {{{{{{{{{{{Sara************************

[bgallini]

I'm sorry you are going thru this. I had shingles a couple of years ago and most of the rash was...well in an area that caused the Dr to start questioning my sexual activity. I had a very similar reaction to yours. It's very shocking to have a Dr suggest such things when it's impossible.

I hope your Dr was just wrong and there is a simpler cause of the symptoms.

[RosemaryCinNJ]

[. What did I do to deserve this?

--Sara[/QUOTE]


Sara..You did nothing to deserve this...do not blame yourself...I do not blame you for being furious though but remember why you left him in the first place.
Ok Girls, a lynch mob is a little involved, too much work..I say HIT MAN!!!
{{{{{Sara**********

[Mom2Deacon]

I am not saying that this is impossible. With DH it could have happened. He is able to lie over the big things. He has been very secretive over the past few years. Lord knows what else he has done that I have no clue about. What makes me so surprised is because to me I had no physical symptoms. And yes maybe it is something else, but I have been doing my research too and there are very few other causes that cause an inflamed cervix like my doctor saw. I was thinking the only other explanation would be possibly tampons but I have never had problems before and I would think that would cause other symptoms too. Like the UTI's I used to get when I used a specific brand of tampons. I stopped using those and I haven't had a UTI since.

Anyway, the test results should be back sometime early next week. I am going to start calling her office on Monday hoping they will get back to me with the results before my check-up. I have been tempted to just call DH and get to the bottom of it that way but knowing him he won't admit to anything until I actually have definitive proof.

I still think I have upset karma in some way with how many hoops and surprises I have been having lately. :rolleyes:

Today I have my ultrasound to see what else is happening. I keep wondering if I will be able to tell what the technicians are looking at. If I have a big fibroid, I want to see it ;)

--Sara

[Mom2Deacon]

[. What did I do to deserve this?

--Sara


Sara..You did nothing to deserve this...do not blame yourself...I do not blame you for being furious though but remember why you left him in the first place.
Ok Girls, a lynch mob is a little involved, too much work..I say HIT MAN!!!
{{{{{Sara**********[/QUOTE]

You guys have never seen me angry. I will be able to give him quite a few deadly blows verbally. It would be one release of anger that I would particularly enjoy.

--Sara