Mom2Deacon
05-23-2008, 09:41 AM
My parents have been helping me pay bills since I moved back here with the kids. Child support has been taking care of our house, the car payment and much of the food bill. Now that my college semesters and my week of rest have ended, we had the big getting a job discussion. A little more background is that my mother had double heart valve surgery in November. She is still recuperating since this type of surgery takes close to a year to recover from and that is when only one valve needed to be replaced. They still can't seem to get her coumadin right so that has caused a few set backs as well. My father took a hiatus from his job to take care of her and he is still on hiatus. They are not without a monthly income though. Anyway, I do my best to not be a burden even though both of them say that I have helped them more than they are helping me, and that having the kids and me around have really helped my mother with her recovery.
Back to the discussion at hand, my father said that it is better for everyone if I take the summer off. He said that money is still not an issue at the moment and that it is easier for my parents to not have wrap their heads around taking care of the kids. They both recommended that I wait to find a job once I know my schedule for school in the fall and possibly find a work study program at the college. They recommended that I take the summer off to recuperate and prepare for the fall. I should spend time with the kids, resting and reading what I want to read, focus on getting into the local college here and just getting through these next few months of no one being in school. My father actually asked if I could slow down enough to do this which is hard for me because I am so driven.
I am having a hard time with this because I do not want to feel like a bum. I am not saying mothering is not a full time job. With 4 boys it is a job unto itself. I just hate taking money from them even though they are happy to do it. They are happy to help me and the kids get through this rough patch and renew our lives. I know they have a point too that I need rest before I rev up again for a semester with a job. Decisions decisions.... If you guys had this opportunity, would you take June and July off?
--Sara
Back to the discussion at hand, my father said that it is better for everyone if I take the summer off. He said that money is still not an issue at the moment and that it is easier for my parents to not have wrap their heads around taking care of the kids. They both recommended that I wait to find a job once I know my schedule for school in the fall and possibly find a work study program at the college. They recommended that I take the summer off to recuperate and prepare for the fall. I should spend time with the kids, resting and reading what I want to read, focus on getting into the local college here and just getting through these next few months of no one being in school. My father actually asked if I could slow down enough to do this which is hard for me because I am so driven.
I am having a hard time with this because I do not want to feel like a bum. I am not saying mothering is not a full time job. With 4 boys it is a job unto itself. I just hate taking money from them even though they are happy to do it. They are happy to help me and the kids get through this rough patch and renew our lives. I know they have a point too that I need rest before I rev up again for a semester with a job. Decisions decisions.... If you guys had this opportunity, would you take June and July off?
--Sara