God Parents?

[Charmed7]

This is sort of OT:

Do your children have God Parents (or anyone you wish your child to be with in case something happens to you)? And are they involved in learning D-Care?

I'm just too judgemental to leave my children with anybody. And now that my son has Diabetes (amongst other conditions) I feel like I can't think of anyone.

Then to top it off, if I do think of the one person, my husband is just as judgemental, and that scratches that person off the list.

Charmed

[Thoover]

We do not have god parents me being Jewish and husband being baptist we just don't, but I do have to say that the majority of our friends have learned to care for Brittney with D. Which is great we couldn't ask for a group of friends that stand by us like family. and there are about 30 of them that are close to use like family that would take care of her and her brother heaven for bid something happen to us.

[saxmaniac]

Alex's godparents have been the best at helping us with D. We couldn't ask for better. And, they will be moving just down the street about a month's time!

[Kirsten]

My sister is named in our will to get our kids. She is very familiar with Griffin's D care, but I'm sure she would need endo support to take over everything 24-7. My mother would also be able to help her. Her boyfriend aims to keep us alive.;)

Kirsten

[frizzyrazzy]

My kids have god parents (since we're catholic) but they are not the people we have listed as their guardians if anything happens to us.

[zell828]

We're Catholic and my kids both have godparents. That doesn't necessarily mean it is the same people they will go to in the event something happens, though.

[Charmed7]

We're Catholic and my kids both have godparents. That doesn't necessarily mean it is the same people they will go to in the event something happens, though.

I'm a little niave about this all because my parents didn't give me any guidance...then I guess the question applies to guardians if something were to happen.

It's like I know who ever does care for my kids will rise to the occasion just as we did when my son was diagnosed. I just feel like people around me parent so differently. I'm not comfortable with anyone. I guess it's a lose-lose situation anyways. I mean...I'm gone. How can anything good come out of that?

Charmed

[zeb'smom]

My kids do not have god parents/guardians. I used to think of my mom as the person who would parent most like me but now with diabetes in the mix I am not so sure, and choosing someone older than us doesn't really make much sense. We have a great friend Eric and I love but he hasn't lived nearby for a while now and his wife is not my favorite person. I just don't feel like I know anybody who would do it "RIGHT", ya know? DH and I worry about this because although we have no reason to think our children would be left without us no one ever thinks that and yet sadly it happens. What is a person to do? Anytime DH and I think about it we cross everyone off the list for different reasons. At this rate my 16 year old niece maybe in the running soon.

Robyn

[frizzyrazzy]

well when dh was deploying and he was making up his will we decided we'd pick guardians - it seemed like a good time to do it. So we picked my brother and his wife since they are local and they have the most contact with my children. Right after ian was dx and I asked my brother if he wanted us to change the will and he said emphatically no that he agreed to it before and he and sil were still agreeing to it now - what kind of brother/uncle would he be if he couldn't take care of him sick or healthy.

currently everyone in my family (my 2 local brothers, wives, grandparents) all are really good with Ian and could step in a pinch. They all know how to check bg and if I had to leave Ian with any of them for an evening I know everything would be ok - they know what is normal behavior for him and so they'd recognize something that wasn't normal and even more importantly they understand the basic concepts (insulin for food, lots of exercise = more bg checks, lows=glucose tabs and more checks, and when in doubt check bg)

so yes, the people we have listed as guardians know how to take care of Ian

[Charmed7]

My kids do not have god parents/guardians. I used to think of my mom as the person who would parent most like me but now with diabetes in the mix I am not so sure, and choosing someone older than us doesn't really make much sense. We have a great friend Eric and I love but he hasn't lived nearby for a while now and his wife is not my favorite person. I just don't feel like I know anybody who would do it "RIGHT", ya know? DH and I worry about this because although we have no reason to think our children would be left without us no one ever thinks that and yet sadly it happens. What is a person to do? Anytime DH and I think about it we cross everyone off the list for different reasons. At this rate my 16 year old niece maybe in the running soon.

Robyn


This is exactly how I feel! It's sort of a double edge sword. I'm so "high and mighty" lol I don't think anyone is good enough for my babies (because really who is.) But I would hate to settle, especially since my son has so many issues, I would have to haunt anyone that hurt him and made him feel like a burden or a problem. I have a really good friend (it's my DH) and I can't STAND his wife. Not to mention I think she has post-partum (sp) depression, untreated. And my sister in Arkansas would be my next pick, except her hubby is a helicopter pilot and on his way to Iraq soon, and she has 3 kids, 3 y/o 2 y/o and newborn. So if something were to happen to her husband, she'd be a single mom of 5! I don't think so. And then I think my mom would be the best, but she's older.... And my other sister has an only child, but man she is anal! She treats her son like he's made of glass and I just don't agree with her parenting.

The list is so much longer, but those people my hubby and I just mention the name and we blurt out, "No!" without discussion.

I'm working on setting up life insurance policies. And I want to write up a short will. I also want to leave my son's current insulin needs in writing in case there's a freak accident and hubby needs that information. He relies on me to give him the dose for any meals I'm not there for. So this has been on my mind. I also figure if it's stressing me out, the last thing I want to do is stress others out while they are mourning. I would like to have it all worked out for them. (Ummm, I know, I'm anal too.)

Charmed

[MamaC]

My kids have godparents because I did (we're not Catholic so no strings). Two of DH's three brothers are the godfathers and two of my friends are the godmothers. Fortunately Jenn is of age so we wouldn't have to foist her off on anyone, and Tom is grown enough to take care of himself so anyone who ended up as his guardian would not have to worry so much about D care.

We haven't ever settled the guardian question as our own parents are getting up there and we have more than enough siblings to share the wealth :rolleyes:

~~Becky~~

[StillMamamia]

Funny you should post on this...

we never baptized our kids, but lately my DH brought up the subject of doing so because we live in a very conservative country and kids around 9 yrs og age, do their first communion. It's a big deal here, with a street procession and all. So DH said Ian is already different because of having diabetes, why should we also make him feel more different by not being able to participate in first communion, when most other kids do.
My convictions say not to baptize, but my mommy side says to do it.
So we've decided to, but don't have a date yet. We do, however, (and this brings me to answering your question...finally :o)) have been thinking who should be the godparents.
One person we are sure of...one of my close friends, who's always been there through thick and thin, and who's shown a real interest in learning about diabetes and how to take care of Ian. Now onto choosing the other 3 persons...

However, I must add that you've got me thinking further...what if something happens to us? We don't have a will made or anything...something else to think about too.