OT-our dog/rant

[cindyrn6617]

Hi all,

WARNING-INCLUDES RANT!

A few weeks back I wrote about our mini schnauzer was dx with D. We tried the insulin and it didn't work and yesterday I had to take her in to be euthanized. It was really hard and I'm rather upset with my husband. He refused to go with me. Said he couldn't handle it, and started in about how he's lost this, this and this in the past year or so. Well, guess what? I've been riding this train with him. I am so tired of being the "rock." I hated to have to do it. We've had to have another dog and a cat euthanized and I've been there for ALL while he's only been there with one dog, one! I've been there 3 times now. Does he really think I want to be there?

He made the mistake of asking me if I was mad at him for not going to the vets office. Well, that just opened the door for a big conversation. I finally told him no more pets until he could be the "one" if the need should ever arise again.

Thanks for listening, just needed to vent.

[deafmack]

It is so hard to do this. I had to do it last fall with our cat who was 23 years old. Fortunately my mother met me at the Vets. You are right. Your husband should have been there with you. (((HUGS)))

[MamaC]

I just recently found out that many years ago my husband took a beloved pet to be euthanized and basically did a drive by. Dropped him and ran. I know how hard it is, but really!

When we euthanized my dog almost 2 years ago, Tom and I took her. We stayed. We sat on the floor with her and the vet and we all cried. I just felt we owed it to the dog to see her to the end of her journey. I still hate that we had to do it.

I endorse your edict about no more pets till hubby can step up.

~~Becky~~

[OSUMom]

Vent away.

First I'm so sorry you about your pup. I can't imagine though I often think about when that day comes for us.

Here's my thoughts. I have a husband who would take our dog - I appear to be the closest to our pup, but you never know when it comes to matters of the heart, and for some to be there at the end it's what they want - not me (I say that now - who knows when it comes right done to it - sounds selfish as I type it) - I'm sure it was absolutely heart wrenching. If I were in your shoes and had no other choice, I'd do what I had to do for my pup.

In your husband's shoes, I'd certainly respect your wishes - no more pets. Is he in agreement???

I'm so sorry for all your losses. My heart goes out to your family....
:cwds::cwds::cwds::cwds:

[cindyrn6617]

"In your husband's shoes, I'd certainly respect your wishes - no more pets. Is he in agreement???"


He just said "fine, whatever!" He wants another schnauzer but we still have one cat in the house and two beautiful dogs outside, a white shepard (our gentle giant Jake) and Lilo an akita, lab mix who is the boss but sweet and would love to be a lap dog except she weighs 105 lbs.lol... I just think that after having a pet for so many years, when they are sick and nothing can help, we owe it to them for their love and loyalty to be there. I held her while it was being done and told her goodbye. He could have at least been in office and there for the ride home. I even buried her next to our male schnauzer before anyone got home because I figured it would be better for the kids, and I think it was. Hopefully, today will be better.