Just a quick question...

[Kelly]

Since Anastacia's last admission she has become very clingy. :o
I mention this to her endo. and she said it is normal at this age to become clingy. The thing is that before admission she was very outgoing, I could put her in her playpen and she would play while I cleaned, put herself to sleep in her cot, go to other relatives for a cuddle.
Now she is beyond clingy. I cant put her down at all. I put her in her playpen to have a shower and she screams the whole time. I try to clean, but I cant put her down anywhere. She wont go to anyone except, me, hubby and my parents and hubby's mum. If anyone even reaches out at her, touches her ect she screams the place down. At night we cant get her into her own cot... she crys and crys. We have tried letting her cry it out, but she just wont stop. So we tryed putting her into her cot once she is asleep (in our room) but as soon as she is away from us she wakes and crys... even if we have warmed her blankets and all in the dryer, and made sure she is asleep for a long time before trying to put her down. It is really hard to get anything done, let alone go anywhere... or even shower or sleep properly. She just seems so scared all the time... it makes me so sad that she is so upset all the time and I cant help her. That admission really took its toll on her lil mind. :(
My question is, has this happened to you after an admission or similar... and what did you do to overcome it?
Thanks in advance. :cwds:

[hrermgr]

10 months old is a clingy stage to begin with and being in the hospital probably didn't help much. My 17 month old has only want "mom" for a while now--right before her dxd and ever since that day in July. It should pass in a while. And letting them cry for a little bit is not a terrible thing, although it feels like it! (My 17 month old has begun to scream at bedtime--something she has never done before. It's her age but it's hard with the diabetes because we never know for sure. I know she's playing us at times!) It gets better! Promise.

[georgia]

Hi kelly,
Immediately after Amalia's diagnosis the same thing happened to us. Amalia is 3 years old, just turned three at diagnosis and she really (obviously) was not feeling well a few weeks before we found out it was type 1. But when we came home from the hospital things were bad. She would not go to sleep, would cry and cry asking to not be left alone. she constantly wanted mommy or daddy and would not even go to her grandparents (whom are usually her favorites).
IT took 3-4 weeks for things to calm down. I was so worried that the hospital experience really frightened her. Which it did, it frightened me. But she was the one with all the needles in her, away from home and her twin brother. It was all so trumatic, I was just a wreck myself. I think she could feel my stress, fright, and anger. It think our kids sometimes know us better than we do.
I don't have any solutions except time and lots of love. Since Amalia is three we really tried to enforce all our regular rules and routines, which was hard because nothing was as it was before. But things got better and still are getting better. Our situation was initially after dignosis which was such a horrible time. I have to imagine that if we ever have another hospital stay it will affect us similarly. it is scarey and trumatic.
Good luck, she is going to be fine with a mama like you.

[selketine]

William was 26 months at diagnosis and the hospital stay - although better than some have experienced (he really wasn't ill - no ketones and no I.V.'s) was still traumatic enough I guess. He started stuttering (!) and did so for about 5-6 months. He eventually stopped. He had never stuttered before that (and he has always been a very verbal kid - that didn't change).

I think as hard as everything is you just have to give them that extra attention and do things that soothe and remind her that you are there and aren't leaving, etc. as much as you can. Hopefully you and your husband can take turns so you can get a break!

[EmmasMom]

We have been through some horrible hospital visits too. I've spent hours holding Emma down while nurse after nurse tries to start and IV, numerous blood draws, scary low blood sugars, being poked and prodded all day and night, UGH!!! It's no wonder they're traumatized. I know it can take weeks for me to get over the stress of it, I can't imagine what its like for them.
Anytime Emma's feeling bad she becomes very clingy. Those are the days that I'm so thankful that I am at home with her and can just give her the attention and reassurance that she needs. The laundry and dusting can wait, (and they often do around here:rolleyes:) until she's finally sleeping, or watching baby Einstein. There are days that I don't accomplish much until daddy comes home and can entertain her.
I know it's hard to have a super clingy baby, but hopefully she'll relax soon. Unfortunately I don't have any great words of wisdom, but I do think it will get better as she feels better. Illness can wreck anyones attempts at schedules and sleeping plans, so don't feel bad!!

[aidensmom23]

I agree with everyone else. That age does tend to be clingy sometimes, although I find that they just go through periods of it. Even Aiden at 2 1/2 can get that way. The hospital visits are so scary and I'm sure she was stressed. She probably needs some reassurance that everything is okay now. I'm sure it will pass soon. Hang in there!