Enough with the nasty reputation!

[Kaylee's Mommy]

I am so tired of the childish behavor on this board.. I received bad reputation for stating I'm going to contact a lawyer for what they did to my daughter this past week... whomever left it doesn't know the hell she went through this past week, they DO need to be sued, they could have killed her. and already said it wasn't about money, it was about them realizing how wrong they were (which they obviously know since they aren't charging us for her hospitalization.) Considering the hospital just got sued and has to pay out 1.7million for blinding a man that went to the ER in 2006. They are a level 1 Trauma center, it should NEVER have happened.:mad:. IT was so much more than the ER was busy. It was SO much more than that. This makes me so angry, if you disagree with me on what happened to MY daughter why don't you PM me?.. reputation isn't for you disagreeing on what happened to MY DAUGHTER. :mad:

[WestinsMom]

Yuck!! !:(

[funnygrl]

Wow, I'm surprised someone hit you with that right after you went through all that. That stinks :(

[Mom2Will]

I just gave you a good reputation to counter the bad :p. So there, take that mean person :D

[momtojess]

Don't let some coward get to you like that. This person obviously isnt big enough to either post or PM you. He/She had to do it like a child where you couldnt respond.

You have every right to seek the advice of a lawyer with what Kaylee had to go through.

[twodoor2]

Kim,
I'm really sorry that Kaylee had to suffer so horribly, and those doctors were complete idiots. I know you and I haven't always agreed on everything, but I want to wish you the best of luck in your pursuit of this. I was very upset over how she was treated in the hospital, and my heart broke for you and your family. Your posts informed and educated us on how scary things can get for children with diabetes. We sometimes forget about that since it is a treatable disease, but your posts and updates really brought that to the forefront.

Good luck on your pursuit of this.

[frizzyrazzy]

you should be able to see the name of the person who gave you neg rep.

I tried to just now give you good reputation but I must have given you good reputation some other time because it won't let me give it to you. :(

[Treysmom]

I agree with you!! I won't be leaving any bad rep's. If I don't like what someone is saying I quit reading.

Sorry to hear Kaylee had a bad time. I've been away due to illness. I'm slowly getting back to normal.

[hawkeyegirl]

I just gave you a good reputation to counter the bad :p. So there, take that mean person :D

I did too! :p

Whenever I read about someone giving someone else bad reputation, that song "Don't Give a Damn 'Bout My Bad Reputation" starts going through my head!

Sorry someone is being so childish. Maybe report this to Jeff?

[lotsoftots]

sorry about the reputation thing..I just dont understand some people.
Now for my question how do you find out your reputation...lol I only see little green boxes and everthing says the same thing I didnt even know till last week we had good or bad rating..now I feel left out of the loop:rolleyes:

[OSUMom]

I'm glad I don't know how to read up on if I have any bad reputation comments. I'm thinking those comments are from trolls.

Follow your gut instinct mom - it will never steer you wrong. {{hugs****

[Nancy in VA]

So sorry to hear that people are abusing the reputation system - I just wish it could be turned off so people don't have to keep enduring this.

[frizzyrazzy]

lotsoflots - you click on the little scale that is located on each post to give a user reputation. I just gave you some and you should see it if you go to your control panel. (which also means I can now go give Kaylee's mom some good rep again)

Truthfully, I think it's a very childish system.

[vettechmomof2]

I wouldn't give it a seconds thought. Sorry that you had to get it now with everything else. hang in there.;)


Lots of tots: I still cannot figure out how to read mine either???:o
Allene

[MReinhardt]

Kim, I am not sure what has gone on with Kaylee, as I have been out of town and havent had time to catch up on the forum. You know what is best for your daughter and family. By all means you do what you need to do.

[AlisonKS]

I think that's childish too! Lame!

[Kaylee's Mommy]

thanks guys! I don't know why it pisses me off so much, but it does, its like that ebay feedback, just gets to me.. Iknow no one else can actually see it.. but I always thought the reputation was for if you were giving out bad advice, saying something wrong, or being nasty to someone, not for your own opinions, this isn't the first time this is happening...

what happened to Kaylee wasn't just one simple mistake of not getting see asap in the ER, it was 3 days of hell, of one mistake after another after another. They know they did something wrong since they didn't charge us for the hospitalization.. to have your child go into DKA BECAUSE of the hospital is horrible and it should have never happened, I hope to heck it never happens again, their lawyer totally agreed with me on everything I said, even the nurse agreed with me and told me to go to a lawyer.. If I didn't know what I was doing things would have gotton worse A LOT worse.. its not that I just dont like the care she got, its that the care was incompitent and negligent on so many different levels.

[MamaC]

Kim,

I am so incredibly sorry that someone felt the urge to give you bad reputation. Particularly over the absolute nightmare you just went through!

For those who asked - your reputation comments seem to appear in your User CP under your PM section.

I hope I am correct on this and not giving bad info.

Becky

[Kaylee's Mommy]

Kim,
I'm really sorry that Kaylee had to suffer so horribly, and those doctors were complete idiots. I know you and I haven't always agreed on everything, but I want to wish you the best of luck in your pursuit of this. I was very upset over how she was treated in the hospital, and my heart broke for you and your family. Your posts informed and educated us on how scary things can get for children with diabetes. We sometimes forget about that since it is a treatable disease, but your posts and updates really brought that to the forefront.

Good luck on your pursuit of this.

Thank you Marsha, everyone knows that we don't always agree, but you know, we talked about it, we were honast with each other and we delt it with and got over it.. like adults do.. and we haven't had anymore issues.. I hope to god no other child has to ever, ever, EVER go through what Kaylee went though, especially since it could have ALL been prevented..

thanks again, Marsha:cwds:

[Sarah Maddie's Mom]

Sent a little green your way!

My personal favorite was the negative box and comment, "This was a very bad thread to start" when I started a Thread questioning the use of negative anonymous reputation points:rolleyes:

[Judy&Alli]

Sorry that people have to be a$$holes! They obviously did not really read what happened to your daughter! It is all of our worst fears what you went through! I cannot imagine why you would get negative feedback!!!!!!!!
Judy

[MReinhardt]

Kim

I am so sorry that Kaylee and you had to go through all of this. I have been out of town and havent had a chance to catch up on the forum. So I am sending good thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

[EmmasMom]

I'm sorry!:( That's the last thing you needed after venting your honest feelings and frustrations.
I was upset after getting a few bad ones on perfectly amicable posts last week... but I've decided not to let it bother me too much anymore. They are obviously not coming from "upstanding members of the community", so who cares!!

Hang in there!:cwds:

How is Kaylee feeling?

[Boo]

Here is my opinion...pay no attention to the rep (good or bad). If someone disagrees with something that you say, hopefully they will be mature enough to express their opinions in a reply post where you can see it and it can be discussed fairly.

I think that you are giving the "reputation" stuff far more weight than it's worth. It really isn't important. :cwds: It is almost like a popularity contest. :( Let your posts and advice speak for themselves, and people will come to recognize your value here on the board. Save your spark and fire and direct your anger at the hospital. Make it a better place for the next kid who goes there needing help. :)

[saxmaniac]

I think the reputation system a bit silly, and it should be turned off.

Some very large forums have a moderation system where you score posts, and then only long-term scoring of your posts affects your reputation indirectly. Your reputation is never shown publicly, because it quickly becomes a contest.

We're much smaller here and don't need it. I have not seen a single post that deserves negative reputation. That would only be for people spamming or trolling the group.

[Lee]

It only means they love you more - right??? Just kidding, but when ever my 12 yr old blows up, I just think it is becuase she loves me and feels safe expressing her true feelings,

Then I take a couple of deep breathes, do some yoga, and then have 3 or 4 glasses of wine and everything is grand!

But seriously - if you are opinionated enough to give negative feedback, then be courageous enough to say why - even if it requires a PM to follow it up!

[EmmasMom]

My personal favorite was the negative box and comment, "This was a very bad thread to start" when I started a Thread questioning the use of negative anonymous reputation points:rolleyes:


OMG are you serious?!:rolleyes: I'm sorry but that makes me laugh!:p

It has to be trolls!

[Kaylee's Mommy]

Thanks guys, you've all made me feel better.. I have given people good reputation, starting at the beginning, I'll give everyone a good rep for making me feel better, BUT the system apparently only lets you do so many in 24hrs.. so I will continue when it'll let me... also, there are a few that I've given good rep to before and it won't let me give you more:( until I 'spread it around' lol.. but I want you all to know that I appreciate you!!!:)

[TimO]

Let's bag the reputation stuff, I've never used it and never intend to. We're all in this together, all adults or at least schooled in the D-life journey, all should have the same sharing objectives, and if someone is abusive, foul or otherwise out of line, I'm assuming the founder will issue the appropriate admonition.

[Sari]

Wow, I just went to oneof my posts and clicked on the scales, it says I have 10 reputation points. I don't know if they are good or bad or how to tell. HMPF!

[zell828]

So sorry someone hurt your feelings :(

[Burlew]

We are our children's advocates. Not only are you bringing the seriousness of this disease to the for front of this Trauma units attention, you are making things better for so many other families that will be visiting in the future. I am so sorry you and your family have to deal with this. Just know you have plenty of people on this forum backing you!!!!

Keep your head up!!!!

[coop]

What an idiot. Just ignore people like that. They aren't even worth your getting upset about.

[wendyc]

I just gave you a good reputation to counter the bad :p. So there, take that mean person :D

Me too! I've had enough of the bad reps. Someone gave me one on a post about low carb foods, where I suggested Baby Belle cheese!

I think it's lousy that someone kicked Kim when she was down. I know exactly what you mean, it's not about the money, it's about making the hospital and doc know how bad they screwed up and pray they don't do it again!

I'm here for ya' Kim!

[funnygrl]

Wow, I just went to oneof my posts and clicked on the scales, it says I have 10 reputation points. I don't know if they are good or bad or how to tell. HMPF!

I believe 10 is what you start with, so it seems no one has repped you good or bad yet. I believe positive reps up this score and negative ones lower it.

[Madisonsmom]

I think we need to post these things for a few reasons. 1 you need to be able to vent that is what we are all here for. 2. So we all know what to look for when we have to take our children in to the Er. So may people on here are new to diabetes and you dont realize that just because you are in a hospital does not mean you are going to get great care.
I so hope you go through and get that hospital there is no excuse for that kind of treatment.
Imagine how many people get crappy vare and say nothing that is why so many hospital have the same crappy care. the more people that speak out that will change the system not keeping quite.

[Jacob'sDad]

Can we just get rid of this reputation thing? If you disagree with someone just PM and tell them so but be careful to weigh the decision to do so very carefully. No one who has gone through such emotional turmoil deserves to have someone kick them when they're down.
I'm very sorry you're going through this. I'm sure the great majority of the people on this board support you and would not do something like this.

[hawkeyegirl]

I have a question about the reputation thing. When I look in my CP, it looks like I've received reputation 4 times. Two of them have green boxes next to them (both have comments, and were clearly positive reputation) and two of them have grey boxes next to them (neither with comments). Are the two with grey boxes negative reputation? The posts I made in those threads were completely innocuous. Like one was a comment about pending legislation in Illinois about diabetic care in schools, and the other was something equally boring and non-controversial. I assumed all four of the times I received reputation was positive up until this thread, but now I'm wondering if the two with the little grey boxes were negative? Not that I really care, but now I'm curious.

[Thoover]

Ive never seen the Rep scale. I do feel bad for you though you had one crazy week with your daughter in that hospital. As I never replied but read the entire thing. Don't let anyone get to you when YOU ARE IN THE right.. Some people are just idiots...

[funnygrl]

I have a question about the reputation thing. When I look in my CP, it looks like I've received reputation 4 times. Two of them have green boxes next to them (both have comments, and were clearly positive reputation) and two of them have grey boxes next to them (neither with comments). Are the two with grey boxes negative reputation? The posts I made in those threads were completely innocuous. Like one was a comment about pending legislation in Illinois about diabetic care in schools, and the other was something equally boring and non-controversial. I assumed all four of the times I received reputation was positive up until this thread, but now I'm wondering if the two with the little grey boxes were negative? Not that I really care, but now I'm curious.

On another forum I belong to, they have a minimum post count you need to have before the reputation starts to effect your points. If someone reps you before they have reached this point, it's gray instead of green. Negative was red there (they did away with negative). So these are like "neutral" reputation I believe, and it means they don't have enough posts to rep if it's the same way here.

[brad]

As it's been said, the rep system is goofy and will be abused since it's there. Every board I've ever been involved with had the same issue.

The way to look at it is: Someone felt spurned by your opinion and decided to punish you anonymously for it because they're too afraid to admit they're wrong. Therefore, they are not only wrong but they're also insecure about admitting they're wrong and feel intimidated by your rightness. So, great job, i hope they learned from their mistake. ;)

I just noticed that I received some negative rep, I've never actually looked before. :D

b.

[Momof4gr8kids]

Kim, I recive negative rep all of the time, and for stupid stuff. I recived neg rep on a post that all I said was Happy Birthday....

I like to give rep (the good kind) without anyone knowing who said it. It's like hiding a cute little note that says something special.

I know getting bad rep sucks, but just try to look past it. This board is a great place, and I'm not going to let a few bad apples ruin it.
You KNOW you are in the right with your Daughter. You were the one there, not any of us. It's your call. I'd probably sue too.

(now watch me get more bad rep ;), but I don't care. If someone wants to give me bad rep for whatever reason I can't do a thing about it, and if they can't just say what their deal with me is then they're not worth my time worrying about).

[hold48398]

As it's been said, the rep system is goofy and will be abused since it's there. Every board I've ever been involved with had the same issue.

The way to look at it is: Someone felt spurned by your opinion and decided to punish you anonymously for it because they're too afraid to admit they're wrong. Therefore, they are not only wrong but they're also insecure about admitting they're wrong and feel intimidated by your rightness. So, great job, i hope they learned from their mistake. ;)

I just noticed that I received some negative rep, I've never actually looked before. :D

b.



I couldnt have said it better. People's expressions are usually a reflection of themselves. Enough said. Don't let it get to you. We all know better than to judge you by what someone thinks or says :).

[Gaia]

What an idiot. Just ignore people like that. They aren't even worth your getting upset about.

I 2nd that. Breathe & move on........its just not worth it!! I hope Kaylee is feeling better. :)

:) Kris

[MamaChrissa]

How pathetic that person's life must be to have to snark at people on message boards! :rolleyes: You are a great mom....whomever is saying bad crap behind your back is a coward.

[LJS118]

Unbelievable...how childish! That makes me so mad, I know its easier said than done but don't let it get to you. :(

[lisalotsamom]

I must have missed what happened with regard to this thread, but I want to say that I fully agree that Kaylee's care was atrocious, and the hospital needs to be held accountable.
I'm in no way a "sue the b#@$%$##" kind of person, but there are some things that our legal system was designed for, and this is one of them imho.
Yes, healthcare workers are human and sometimes make mistakes, but good-grief!! We should be able to take our children to a hospital and expect that they will get safe and appropriate treatment.

[Gaia]

We should be able to take our children to a hospital and expect that they will get safe and appropriate treatment.

AMEN!! You said a mouthful!

[shirley83006]

why would someone be so uncompasionate. and be so harsh on your decision. it is no one else's business on what you do. if someone disagreed they should just keep it to themselves. especially after going through what you did. i think that, that individual would think differently if it had happened to them. and this forum is to give up lifting support. and if you have no loving support you should say nothing. and who care about reputation.

[jules12]

I am so sorry that happened to you. You have had quite a week(s) lately. I applaud you for having the courage to step up and say that this shouldn't happen - hopefully the next type 1 child in that hospital will receive better care thanks to you taking a stand. I am glad Kaylee is much better too!

You have always been very supportive and helpful and I wouldn't give the "rep thing" a second thought!

[CDoyle1013]

Sorry that your daughter went through what she went through...but, before you sue and incur costs and time, please note that jury verdicts generally are in favor of doctors! Just ask the Ritter family who just lost a huge medical malpractice case.

I know that I also get upset and I do tend to throw my weight around if needed...like in the ER after my daughter's second seizure. I introduced myself as Erin's mom and an attorney and asked for an MRI to make sure that her seizures were not affecting her brain negatively nor were the result of something else other than diabetes effects.

Know that as a family member of a family of professionals, including many top docs...a successful lawsuit against a doctor or hospital is very, very, very hard to win.

You may wish to address the problem with a state regulatory board instead.

[hawkeyegirl]

Sorry that your daughter went through what she went through...but, before you sue and incur costs and time, please note that jury verdicts generally are in favor of doctors! Just ask the Ritter family who just lost a huge medical malpractice case.

Know that as a family member of a family of professionals, including many top docs...a successful lawsuit against a doctor or hospital is very, very, very hard to win.

You may wish to address the problem with a state regulatory board instead.

I just wanted to point out that the Ritter family did settle out of court with a number of the doctors involved, and I believe that that settlement was for over 10 million dollars. Most med mal cases settle before trial, but the terms of the settlement are usually confidential, so we don't hear about them. Also, virtually all med mal cases are taken on a contingent fee basis, so you shouldn't be out of pocket any attorney's fees if you don't prevail.

That all being said, CDoyle makes a very good point about the emotional toll of a lawsuit. People almost always underestimate how hard it is to keep reliving the bad experience over and over again. I'm not trying to talk you out of (or into) doing anything one way or another. Just giving another perspective.

[CDoyle1013]

Karla:

some good points also! But in Colorado, should a case go to a jury, our jury verdict reporter usually reports endings in favor of the docs!

insurance companies are usually good at winning, also.

we don't hear about the thousands of cases lost, just the very few big wins that get into the paper.

(My cousin's child was born with Type1 - the doctors misdiagnosed. He had seizure after seizure with crying and screaming. No one did a full analysis The child is now 12 but will never have a "normal" life...he is disabled in every sense of the word..can't be toliet trained, loss of almost all cognitive function, and will always need someone to care for him in addition to the Type 1 diabetes...all because no one checked the blood work and did the digging to find out the cause of distress!).

Had another case where docs misdiagnosed a toddler...again, lots of screaming and crying...chalk it up to teething they said...nothing wrong here. She had a tumor wrapped around her ureter with urine backed up into her system...she was in pain...lost her bladder, reproductive organs and endured a horrid round of chemo, etc...she is 16 now...Thank goodness, their are researchers who are testing bladders created by stem cells in south Carolina...one of these days, maybe she will be free of her bag.

Unless one has an extreme case, my opinion is that juries favor the medical profession.

[momtojess]

Karla:

some good points also! But in Colorado, should a case go to a jury, our jury verdict reporter usually reports endings in favor of the docs!

insurance companies are usually good at winning, also.

we don't hear about the thousands of cases lost, just the very few big wins that get into the paper.

(My cousin's child was born with Type1 - the doctors misdiagnosed. He had seizure after seizure with crying and screaming. No one did a full analysis The child is now 12 but will never have a "normal" life...he is disabled in every sense of the word..can't be toliet trained, loss of almost all cognitive function, and will always need someone to care for him in addition to the Type 1 diabetes...all because no one checked the blood work and did the digging to find out the cause of distress!).

Had another case where docs misdiagnosed a toddler...again, lots of screaming and crying...chalk it up to teething they said...nothing wrong here. She had a tumor wrapped around her ureter with urine backed up into her system...she was in pain...lost her bladder, reproductive organs and endured a horrid round of chemo, etc...she is 16 now...Thank goodness, their are researchers who are testing bladders created by stem cells in south Carolina...one of these days, maybe she will be free of her bag.

Unless one has an extreme case, my opinion is that juries favor the medical profession.

I believe Kim has already said that money isnt the reason of talking with a lawyer. I think her intention is more for making a point and making sure the hospitals and drs realize how bad they screwed up and with alittle hope maybe some of them will learn how to treat D kids in the future.

[hawkeyegirl]

I believe Kim has already said that money isnt the reason of talking with a lawyer. I think her intention is more for making a point and making sure the hospitals and drs realize how bad they screwed up and with alittle hope maybe some of them will learn how to treat D kids in the future.

I read an interesting article somewhere a while back where they did some research on people who were the victims of medical malpractice, and the vast majority of them said that if someone would have just owned up to the mistake in the first place, and offered an apology, and some proof that measures were being taken so that the mistake wouldn't happen to other people, then they wouldn't have brought a lawsuit. But doctors are all too scared to apologize, because they're afraid it will be used against them in court. (And even if they WANT to apologize, they're forbidden to by their hospital and insurance company.) It's kind of a Catch-22.

[M&MMOM]

I am just getting caught up on this thread and have to say how SORRY I am that someone would do that. What you and Kaylee went thru was awful and to pile on is so unfair!

We all love you and wish you the best!:o

[KatelinsMom]

I just don't understand why anyone would give someone bad reputation for anything on this board. It is here for support. It is here for a soft place to fall when the outside world just doesn't get the whole picture, and we just need to congregate with others who know exactly how complicated things can get. Hugs to you and everyone else who has gotten bad reputation from someone who is obviously getting some sort of enjoyment out of hurting the feelings of others. :)

[CDoyle1013]

If money is not the reason is righting a wrong, then it is my opinion that she would be better served by writing to the chief of staff, members of the hospital board and copying the same to the state regulatory agency (doc, nurses and hospital agencies - whomever was involved). In filing suit, the family would have to spend resouces (contingency cases are not "free" - one is remains responsible for "costs", including filing fees, depositions, experts, etc.). My folks dropped over 100K on "costs" for one of my sister's in her litigation against a University (well publicized). Just think what a 100K donation could do in finding a cure! We are talking some major money in med mal case litigation by the Plaintiff!

[liasmommy2000]

(((HUGS))). I'm sorry for all you have gone through and now a nasty person here.

[Ivan's Mum]

I've just given you some rep. It's a little rude! It's about the 3rd rep I've done, and I think will be the last.

Life is hard enough without having to watch over your shoulders.

[Ellen]

What does a blue rep box mean? I just got one.

BTW, when I leave comments regarding the reputation, I include detailed positive comments :D

[dbz2988]

Kim, I'm sorry that you've had to go through any of this. To go through what you and Kaylee went through last week and then to have someone undermine your decision for pursing something that obviously needs to be addressed is just asinine. They have obviously never been in the position where they felt the care for their child was (to say it nicely) less than standard. Or if they have, maybe they just weren't/aren't educated enough to know the difference. I would do the same thing if I were in your position and I wouldn't let any reputation you get from this board stop you from going foward and doing what needs to be done. I'll tell you one thing, I live in NH as well and I will NEVER step foot in that hospital with my step son, or anyone in my family for that matter, diabetes or not.
Again, I'm sorry.:(

[mom to a sports nut]

Well, thanks to this thread, I have finally figured out where my reputation is!!!!!:p

[kyleesmom]

I cant believe someone would give you a negative reputation for your feelings either.

On a side note, I wish you could sue doctors and make them receive the education that could have prevented their mistake in the first place rather than sue them for money or anything else. The doctor that diagnosed Kylee screwed up royally. I wish we could sue him to make him go back to school and learn about diabetes and how you treat it. Not at an endos level, but general knowledge. Like not sending a kid in DKA home with 70/30 insulin and instructions to call in the next week to make an appointment with a dietician and an endcrinologist right after they were diagnosed.

[Jeff]

I had a look at the reputation system. It can be turned off or on -- easily -- and there a lot of setting options.

I also looked at how many people use the reputation system to comment on posts and was amazed. In the last 24 hours, for example, there have been 63 reputation comments posted. CWD Forum users are clearly using the reputation system.

My advice is not to worry about it.

Also, the reputation can help weed out spam or abusive posts when a moderator is not immediately available.

[hold48398]

I had a look at the reputation system. It can be turned off or on -- easily -- and there a lot of setting options.

I also looked at how many people use the reputation system to comment on posts and was amazed. In the last 24 hours, for example, there have been 363 reputation comments posted. CWD Forum users are clearly using the reputation system.

My advice is not to worry about it.

Also, the reputation can help weed out spam or abusive posts when a moderator is not immediately available.

Hi Jeff,
I would be curious to know how many reputations were posted in any 24-hour period BEFORE this thread got started? I do think this thread skewed the numbers a bit... I for one didn't even KNOW about reputations LOL. Thanks.

[Ivan's Mum]

What does a blue rep box mean? I just got one.

I got blue too. Ditto on that question.

[Ivan's Mum]

think I figured it out, green is a response reply to a thread and blue is the thread, or the other way around. Can't remember which is which but it seems to be like that from my feedback.

[Jeff]

Correction:

63 yesterday

7 the day before

[zimbie45]

Im still so completely and utterly confused about reputation.. I still dont know how to check it ...

i agree enought with the nasty reputation.. didnt there mom's ever teach them if you dont have any thing nice to say then dont say it at all.. kaylee obviously went thru ALOT of poor care at the hospital... What they all went thru was just uncalled for and i do agree that it needs to get attention in anouther way then just having the hospital pay for the bill and sweep it under the carpet. I ask you all.. Do you wnat this to happen to your kid. I think not and the only way sometimes to get others to really understand is by holding them accountable... i do not think or believe any that kim want to talk to an attorney just to get money... I woudl do the same thing.. it has nothing to do about money, but protecting her child and and all of ours

[Boo]

I had a look at the reputation system. It can be turned off or on -- easily -- and there a lot of setting options.

I also looked at how many people use the reputation system to comment on posts and was amazed. In the last 24 hours, for example, there have been 363 reputation comments posted. CWD Forum users are clearly using the reputation system.

My advice is not to worry about it.

Also, the reputation can help weed out spam or abusive posts when a moderator is not immediately available.

I seriously doubt that today is a "typical" day.

As far as I'm concerned, I could take it or leave it. I frankly don't pay too much attention to it.

If used properly, I can see the benefits. But it seems to be being abused. I see advantages to both positive reps (for helpful advice) and negative reps. Personally, I'd prefer to post rather than give a negative rep. But if someone doesn't feel bold enough to post or PM the person, then they should at least provide a valid and mature explanation for why they gave a negative rep. It is silly and spiteful to just give a negative rep with no explanation. Along the same lines...I think it is also silly to give positive rep to somebody just to make them feel better. I'll probably get all kinds of negative rep for that comment ;), but to me that just makes it into a popularity contest rather than what it should be for. JMHO

[AlisonKS]

on a forum I moderate, you can see who gives you the rep-before we did that you couldn't and members got all sorts of negative rep. Now you have to have a lot of balls there to give negative rep. Kinda nice ;)

[Kaylee's Mommy]

Thanks everyone!

If it were any other time I wouldn't have gotton so po'd about the bad rep.. I've been through a lot this past week and still haven't caught up on sleep.. and to have someone question why I'm doing something for my daughter, acting like I was just after money, just totally pisses me off.. they obviously didn't bother reading my posts about what Kaylee went through last week.

[lil'Man'sMom]

Thanks everyone!

If it were any other time I wouldn't have gotton so po'd about the bad rep.. I've been through a lot this past week and still haven't caught up on sleep.. and to have someone question why I'm doing something for my daughter, acting like I was just after money, just totally pisses me off.. they obviously didn't bother reading my posts about what Kaylee went through last week.

Kim-
Why anyone who is a member of CWD would kick another member when they are down is just plain mean!

I joined this forum for support and information to help my child live with this disease. I truly view it as part of his treatment plan...I have learned so much here, not just medically but emotionally as well.

Whether someone agrees with your decision or not they need to respect what Kaylee and your family went through. If they cannot offer support or advice (negative or positive) openly then IMHO their opinion is not worth another thought.

Take care and rest.

[caspi]

I just don't understand why anyone would give someone bad reputation for anything on this board. It is here for support. It is here for a soft place to fall when the outside world just doesn't get the whole picture, and we just need to congregate with others who know exactly how complicated things can get. Hugs to you and everyone else who has gotten bad reputation from someone who is obviously getting some sort of enjoyment out of hurting the feelings of others. :)

I couldn't have said this better!

[Heather(CA)]

Sorry, I'm a little late here. I've actually been getting off my bootie lately...I'd like to know why whoever gave you negative rep thinks it's any of their business what you do:mad: They weren't there:rolleyes:

BTW, if I give out rep...You will see Heather(CA) right next to it;)

[Jensmami]

I am so sorry Kim, for all that happened to Kaylee and you. I hope her cold gets better soon. The whole reputation thing is still new and a mystery to me, and for somebody to give you one, after what you just had to go through is just :eek:

[Jensmami]

How can I give a reputation?

[jendean]

I think that the only feedback worth giving is positive, if you really dont like what someone says, just PM them.. if its that big of a deal.

[funnygrl]

How can I give a reputation?
Click the scale icon on top of any post.

[Abby-Dabby-Doo]

Kim~
You're not alone- Just try and let it go. It's too bad the person(s) giving it has forgotten what this place is all about. We all come here to support, give advice, understand, help, and vent regarding this disease we all share in someway shape or form.

[deafmack]

I am so sorry that happened to you. You have every right to be upset at the way your daughter was treated. I am sending you a whole lot of (((HUGS))) your way.

[oskar]

It's a real shame that when you are posting about something as serious as hospital care, someone does this. I am from the Uk and rarely post but wanted to comment on this- especially as this is such a good supportive forum.

I am willing to bet that someone did this to stir the pot. I think the best thing to do is totally blank the whole reputation thing and not rise to the bait.

I remember the whole " Seaworld" thread-someone again posted a malicious post to get a rise.

I hope you get some joy over the (lack of) hospital care- best wishes,